I'm a 31 year old man from Ohio. I am recently divorced and need help getting my confidence back. I appreciate any advice you guys can give me on dressing, grooming, conversation, confidence, attitude, etc. Where do I get started? I read Mystery Method, have been practicing. What's next? I want to learn everything I possibly can, then use what works best for me.

Hey Mate

The first thing i would advise is confidence comes from with in. You can have the great cloths, be well grommed and have a fat wallet but with out the big C you have nothing. In my studies i have found and truly beleive that confidence is created your not born with it. Use some affermations that will empower you making you feel strong, do this morning and night and during the day. I have mine on the shower wall, in my car and next to my bed. If you are going to do these dont just say them feel them!! If ya want some ideas on what affermations you could use drop me a PM.

Anything else let me know!!

Anybody else here have any advice on techniques and things I can do to develop the skills necessary to be a PUA?

Start with the basics. Get a good night of sleep, and eat well so you can have an optimal amount of energy.

Try your best to get in the habit of talking to everyone to desensitize yourself to basical socialization. Once you get your mind to delete the whole "people are scary" lie, you'll naturally become a little more comfortable and confident and then you can take things from there.

Hi RB The only advice I can really give is read as much literature on seduction techniques as you can, study openers and routines and really apply yourself to the subject of game. But the real confidence boost will be approaching random women and opening sets. Get practical and get out there, you really have not got anything to lose.

Hope some of this helps fella

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Hi RB, I have been at this game since I was 16 years old... I'm 26 now... You know... There is only so much that clothes and a fat wallet can do... Confidence is something that has to be conjured... For instance... Somedays I don't feel up to doing anything and my confidence level dips when I had a heavy night drinking at my bar the night before, but what I do is I head to a place like a supermarket or anywhere that I might be able to 'view' some nice girls and just make eye contact and give smiles to them when they return the gaze... Don't approach!!!! Just smile and wait wait for her to smile back... Continue to do this to every woman you see... It works wonders because... Number one... they might think that maybe they know you from somewhere... Number two... Why the hell is this guy just smiling and then not making a move on me... Its a simple exercise that I do daily beofre i head down to my bar to open.

Take care buddy. All the best.

Oh... I'm from Singapore anyway...

I have read "Mystery Method" and am doing the Stylelife challenge. I have absolutely no problem walking up to strangers and talking. I can do the openers (I have used the following: if you had to hire an Elvis impersonator, would you go with the old fat Elvis, or the young Elvis?; my buddy needs to buy a girl a shirt for her birthday, should he buy one too big or too small if he's mistaken; Obama or Clinton). I do various gambits (guess a two digit number between 1 and40, both odd and different numbers; the five question game, etc.) I just don't have enough material to stack and I would like to know more about Ross Jeffries stuff.

This forum is loaded with great infromation. Just type in what you want to know in the search funtion and get to reading. There are endless amounts of openers, negs, routines and closes. There is not one exact thing that a pua can give or tell you thats going to help you out. You have to figure that out for youself.

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I just heard about the nipple game... when you can ask 5 sets to touch you nipple you win. awesome idea by thesocialengineer or something like that on youtube.

A-wuddup!

I think everyone gets confidence from different areas. Me? I get my confidence by going to the gym. The stronger, bigger and more shaped I become, the better I feel. The feeling of having people comment on you is undescribable.

The local gyms here send their reps out into the city and have them advertise their gym. Free workouts etc. They pretty much stop everyone because they have targets to hit. When they stop me and my friends they always talk to my friends they always say things like "Working out and looking good is very important, as your friend here will tell you...". It really gives me a buzz. Especially because I used to be a weedy little dude only like 5 years ago. Seriously, my nickname was "Ironing-board" because my chest was so skinny.

I used to be shy and not very confident. I never took my sweater off in school because my arms were so skinny. People don't believe me when I tell them this because I have absolutely no issues with myself. This pick-up game is the last piece of the puzzle. I'm already confident enough to tease and talk to really hot girls. Once I learn how to make them mine, oh dear!

My point is: If there's something that you don't like about yourself, change it if you can. If you can't, then it's no big deal. If you're out of shape. Change it. If you're not a tidy person, change it. It's more a mental change at first. Once you internalise your behaviour, it becomes habit.