Hi fellas,
My name is rerguti, I’m 23.. from Cuba currently living in Shenzhen, China. I need some help dealing with girl’s attention:

Since I moved here (3 months ago) I have been going out to bars and clubs on the weekend. I like to dance, laugh and really have good times, difficult to explain but I have sort of a strong presence. When I go out I get a lot of attention of girls (or at least I think), I always catch them checking me out or even staring almost inviting with their eyes for me to come to talk to them or something. My problem is that when I get those signals I get paralyzed and become numb, not really knowing what to do. Sometimes I will stare back and they would look away.

This happens to me with Chinese girls and also with other foreigner girls. I really need some help because I feel I miss out on a lot of opportunities. I display a lot of confidence in everything I do (without trying), but I’m actually a shy guy. I’m not terrible with woman, I’m terrible with girls in just walking over to a girl I don’t know and stablish connection.

If you think a girl is interested in you... What do you do? Do you go over to her and start talking? What would do you say?

I've read lots of pick up books but still have so much approach anxiety, I feels its ridiculous. If someone introduces me the girl I can do really well. But I don’t want that, I want to be able to approach (regardless of the outcome) ANY girl I want, the worst is knowing that is all i my head but not sure how to overcome it. HELP!

Yes, if you think a girl likes you, go over and talk to her. Approach anxiety is a basic issue. I over came it by thinking that fear I feel is like the fear you feel on a roller coaster or at a scary movie. I use it as a signal to approach.

What to say... Well, that's the big question, isn't it? That is up to you, that is being yourself, developing your style. Really, say whatever the fuck you want because it is a stranger, so who gives a shit?

In the setting you describe, you don't really need words to start a seduction. Just be bold enough to center them out and show your attraction to them, you can do this by using heavy eye contact and by dancing into their comfort bubble, giving then a wink or smile as you get closer. If you can manage to convince the DJ to play some latin music ( assuming you know how to "latin dance". Its a great way to physically escalate, you can take their hand and take control while dancing. ( this turns women on)

Women will let you know almost immediately their level of attraction by how they react ( body language)

If you manage to isolate a woman that you've picked up by dancing but have not yet talked to one another:

Keep it simple. Since you are a foreigner in another country you have an advantage, ( exotic intrigue) Use your cultural difference as a tool to communicate and potentially flirt.

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Ask them about the local area, where is good to go dancing, eating, etc etc. ( play the tourist, people and women are usually willing to help and be engaged in conversation).

Then pay attention to her body language, its easy to spot attraction cue's. Especially if you';ve read all those pick up books.

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