Hey my name's Will.

I'm new to this Forum and the great game we call pickup artistery.

the interest to become a PUA started just recently when i started to read "The Game".
When you could almoast apply a sience to the former enigma of female attraction.
And since every time i have gotten lucky i have gone in with the attitude "fuck it im not even gonna try and get with a girl tonight" and in the very same evening being dragged from that club by a girl who had basicly been screeming her IOI's at me, so that she could get me into bed. This does not come along as often as i woulf like it to, as you may already suspect. So you can see that i am in need of advice and guidence to become a formidable PUA.
I'M gonna start of by telling part of the story that is me so that you can begin to understand my sticking points at this very moment and which might show themselfs later on in the game.

just some basic stats. im a Swedish 23yo guy who lives in the student city of Lund full of prospects.
im 185cm tall or 6 foot 1 by your measurements fairly good looking guy currently rocking some facial hair.
im currently abit overwight but i have muscles aswell and i jave recently promised myself to straighten that out. a picture will follow when i figure that out.
to talk about where everyones lifestory starts the childhood. I grew up with a father that was strikt to a point i find rediculus. (one example was that i was late to our curfue 18.00 which was the time of our family dinner time by a measly 5 minutes and for that i got a 6 hour lecture). Whell extremely long story short because of a mentally abusive father i had the worst selfconfidence ever. All that was to change when one night my dad got drunk and picked a fight with me which led to me having to hold him at a chokehold untill the police came to keep me from getting beatup by my dad. And at this point i was 17 going on 18.

since that night i havent seen him and after that my confidence went from being non exsistant to starting to take form. And now i can say roughly 5 years later that my confidence is high maybie to high at times.
But when it comes to girls that confidence QUICKLY dissapears and in its void leaves a babbleing fool who cannot keep up a conversation. The first time i tell people this they have a hard time beliveing it since i have worked at a charter bar. And the guys who do this are usually the PUAs of Sweden, all a crewmember gotta do to get a girl is walk into their bar look at girl and hold out his hand and walk out with her. This is because as a people we are quite timid and we tend to overcompensate for that by going to designated party resorts and go wild. So now you might understand the hesitation that my compadres feel when i tell them i have a hard time talking to a girl im interested in.

And i can honestly say that i do get alot of looks followed by a smile from girls. But if i manage not to screw it up by averting my eyes and instead radiate confidence i have no way to follow that up.
I have tried to translate lines that i could pickup austrailian girls with when i worked in a bar in Thailand but they just end up sounding silly and forced.

and the worst and most frustrating about all of this is when i see one of my friends interacting with a girl i can in an instant pick up on IOIs and help him realise it. but when it comes to myself i seem at times to be helpless.

so currently my sticking points are the aproach and the generic conversation (i find it hard to talk to girls younger or at the same age as myself seing as we have little in common)

what i would love from you guys is material to get me in the game to get me going since i think that the "the game" wont suffice all on it's own. and of course any tip and/or advice you cant grant to deal with my selfasteem with girls. as im writing this its 04:25 and for you guys it's probably in the evening hours so i will hope for some comments when i wake up in the morning.

quickly melted/applyed material would do nice as im planning to go sarging this wednesday.
and on thursday i have asked a girl on a date.

so in short hit me up with what you have to offer.

Happy hunting
-Will

I'm a reforming Swedish AFC myself so take my advice for what it's worth: I read The Game and I think the tips and tricks in that book are probably great if you move in the same social circles as Neil Strauss does, but I'm a divorced middle aged guy who rarely bump into neurotic movie stars or strippers. I went trough a couple of years of no pussy whatsoever, partly because I was a full time dad who rarely had the time to date, but also because I had no idea about how to interact with women.

What changed things for me was that I read "Bullet Points" by Savoy which really deepened my understanding of how women work. I also learned some simple NLP techniques and a few canned openers by heart. That really improved my game and has gotten me laid with six different women since February. It's not a lot for a real PUA I know, but a massive improvement for me.

I have lived and worked abroad where I had better success with women, and the difference between Swedish and Eastern European and Asian women is that according to my experience, you are toast once you compliment a Swedish woman on her looks. A Chinese or a Polish woman expects a little flattery, it's all part of the ritual, but this seems to be a turn off for Swedish women. BTW, has anyone else noticed this or is it just me? If you manage to build attraction and comfort, and not come off as a pervert, while at the same time making sure that she understands that your intentions are sexual, you are home free once she invites you over to her place. I have only managed to score once in a club since I got divorced, all the others were online pickups.