Hey whatsup... I've posted and read up on some tips and things on here a couple years ago when I was interested in a girl that friendzoned me, but I never really continued or actually got seriously into PUA, but now i'm here to really start because in all honesty, lately i've been feeling kinda pathetic in terms of my experience with women and been hurting my self esteem with life as a whole.

Anyway, to make things pretty short and simple, i've just turned 21, never had a serious relationship... have only had sexual relations through a few one night stands here and there and right now I really want things to change for the better. I consider myself to be pretty good looking physically, but i lack a lot of social skill because I was born with social anxiety and had always sheltered myself and been afraid to go out there even as a young kid, and its lasted for quite a while. I used to sit at home all day everyday and just drown myself with playing online video games to take up all of my time rather than doing anything social, and now that i'm working full time at a restarant im starting to go out a lot more and I only now see like how bad things have been for me.

Anyway, i just don't know where to start. Whenever i find myself talking to a girl I never know what to say, im not quick thinking, i am not witty... and if someone finds me to be humorous its more of in a doofy manner rather than something charming or witty... and i feel like that's something I really need to work on, because i am not viewed as an alpha male in the slightest, and i have pretty high standards when it comes to women. Is there anyway to change this?

Can someone help me out or give me tips on how i should start out? Would be very appreciated

I know the feeling man. I used to suffer from some pretty bad SA too. Real SA. Diagnosed and shit. I still have other anxiety issues but coming out of my shell and approaching has lessened that a lot. You claim that you have no clue what to say to a female and aren't alpha. I'm here to tell you that you are wrong. You have been lied to about yourself. You wanting this right now is that inner alpha trying to force it's way out and you need to let it run free before it manifests as something else like a drinking problem or other anxiety issue. Anyway on to the good shit. The key to alpha-ness and knowing what to say is body language and not giving a fuck/having no filter. the body language is sorta easy. PM me for more detail if you want but the key is just to maintain good posture, not talking too fast, facing towards the female with your legs open and standing firm, talking LOUDLY (really...even if it sounds too loud just do it), and maintaining eye contact. This will make you appear alpha. Now is the verbal communication. Ahhh the verbal communication. This is what man considers the bane of approach but it is actually the easiest part. Your brain will handle this for you. You just have to listen. While conversing with a female your brain will have random shit pop in and out. Just have no filter and say it. Don't rely on canned material other than personal stories. Just go with what your brain has to say. It knows what it is doing. Literally just say what is in your head! The other day I approached a female in my university's student center and after a few moments of conversation I asked if she was into BDSM. Now, given, I did say it in a manner that was making fun of her/joking but it was also cold reading which females enjoy. Then...I got a long drawn out conversation that involved her rape fantasies, getting her number, and having sex with her the next day. Sure you could say that it's the younger generation and college girls are sluts. Nope. Not even close. Sure there are sluts but most girls won't put out unless you have tight game and I know not to give these other AFC's too much credit. Just go for it man. PM me if you need detail and more tips.

Thanks for the post man yeah i was diagnosed with actual social anxiety too. I also have general anxiety, sometimes its worse than others.. it seems to happen randomly for me. It's been a really big pain in my ass for my whole life, i shouldn't blame it or harp over it but if i never had any anxiety i think i'd be a completely different person.

Anyways... yeah, my biggest problem is probably knowing what to say when approaching a girl that I don't know. If i were to say "hi" and introduce myself, i wouldn't know what to say after that, i'm not very clever.. and if i just said the shit that popped into my head in that given moment the girl would never be interested, i like.. need to change the way that i think when i'm approaching, because a lot of the time my brain just doesn't seem to want to function when im speaking to a hot girl, i tend to freeze up.

My body language isn't much of a problem, its just approaching, keeping the conversation going and/or being funny/teasing the girl, i'm really bad at that stuff.

That's the programmed AFC in you saying that she wouldn't be interested in what you have to say. Females give the bets advice when they say to just be yourself. They literally mean it. Give it a try. You have nothing to lose. If you're standing there wondering what to say and all you can think about is "I'm nervous" then say it. If it's "I like cheese" then say that shit too. Just fucking go for it. What's the worse that can happen? She'll giggle and just leave? Or she'll just look awkwardly at you? Those don't matter. She is just a random girl but the reaction will likely be positive. Have fun with it.

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