Little background on me , Im 22 from Canada , never had a girlfriend , never had much friends becuase I was very akward in social situations , when guys at school talked with me it was basically about the NBA games from last night or which girl would you rather bang type convos , aside from those 2 topics , I didnt have much to say . Some spanish girl tried making conversation with me during Religion class and I asked her " Did you watch Lebron 38 point game last night , he also grabbed a triple double " ............. I kid you not . She gave me an odd look , never talked to me again , I wonder why .. Alot of people at school thought I was gay , at the time I just brushed it off , but I only ever talked to a few guys so I can see why they would think that .
Never got invited to parties , spending friday , and weekends in my room on the computer was normal , only time I went out was grocery shopping or gym . Im overweight , last year I suffered a wrist injury at the gym , didnt take care of it right away and now its fucked ( problems with my wrist tendons ) due to this I cant lift weights or build muscle .

I lost my virginity at the late age of 22 to some random fatty of a dating website , I just wanted to get it over with . Didnt go to well imo , I had trouble keeping it up and I thought it was all my fault , now that I think about it , It was her , not me , she wasnt my type .

I have a shitty part time job thats not going anywhere , manager is always fuking with me everytime I work there , harrashing me , calling me names , making me do pointless work while others stand, etc , we get into huge fights and its been like this for years . I promise the day I leave this job I will stick 4 Tomatoes in his car exhaust and slash one tire ... just one . that will make us even... somewhat

Recently I did online dating again , sent out 600+ msges and only 5 replied , 4 of them said "Im not interested " or " I'll pass " and one fatty was dtf ( she prob would be dtf with anyone )
So whatever , went to her place and tried fucking her. Same problem like that last chick , had trouble keeping it up , she wasnt my type . I closed my eyes and pretended I was fucking Lisa Ann , didnt work .
I was actually hard for a few mins , but when she started snorting , I just lost it .. went soft .
She was ontop of me , and there was a big closet mirror on the left of the bed , I saw myself in the mirror with some random fatty ontop of me and I thought to myself ..... I hit rock bottom .

I knew that was the moment , I needed to make a change . I got up , put my pants on , went to her fridge , grabbed a soda and left .

Im basically starting from scratch , no friends , no acquaintances , no #'s in my phone , no facebook friends .

Its a new begining for me , I will work my ass off to improve my life . Feel free to follow me on my journey , I will try and update my blogs here and share my experience . Would be awesome to get some help / advice from fellow members : ) This is a one man journey and I have no one to blame but myself if I dont succeed .

Goals :

- Make friends - Guys and Girls - Have a good social Circle
- Get in Shape ( Have a physic that would make Jeff Seid jelous )
- Approach girls with no problem , beat appraoch anxiety
- Bang a shit ton of hot girls ( No more fatties ! )
- Get a better job , make more money and move out
- Fix my style "swag" , be cool


My Lays so far :

1. Strong 4/10 chick
2. 4.5 chick



Hopefully I posted this in the correct section , leave any comments if you like . Will be updating this soon . Thanks

I am very glad to hear you're resolved to change you life. There are many a man on this site who have had similar experiences. This is a brotherhood you can call upon. I would start off by reading Leil Lowndes "How to Talk to Anyone" and Dale Carnegie's "How to Win Friends and Influence People."

Have courage.

Best,



Jackstay

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"Quit while you're ahead. All the best gamblers do." - Baltasar Gracián

Hey bro....!!

That's a helluva story.....!!! You sound like a pretty cool guy and someone who has had an epiphany.

When people get to these moments, where they can step back and look at their life and realize that they are unhappy and unfulfilled ….it is than that people can evoke real change and make their life exactly what they want it to be.

It sounds like you have arrived at that point and I'm excited for you because you are in for one helluva fun and exciting ride while you change yourself into the person you envision.

I look at life like this....

1.) You can’t change the past so don't live in regret. What's done is done, learn from your mistakes & move on. Don't chastise yourself...!!
2.) Nobody is promised tomorrow. Goals are good to have but focus on the "here and now".
3.) The present....this is where the magic happens my friend....and from here is where “real” change can begin.

I'm on a journey to improve my life as well. Everyone on this site is looking to improve themselves whether it is getting better with girls, or to gain more self confidence….we are all looking to each other for self improvement.

In my humble opinion, I think by the fact you registered on here and posted your story (very openly and honestly I might add) you have taken the first steps in becoming the “new you”.

You said you had no friends….well consider me friend #1.

I’m new to the site also but I think you can send me direct messages on here if you ever want to talk.

You’re right….all of our journeys are “one man journeys” because we are all on our own quests to better ourselves and our lives but that doesn't mean you have to walk down the path alone.

“There are no faster or firmer friendships than those formed between people in similar situations.” - Me

Goodluck on your journey man...I hope u find what u r looking 4

Pretty Boy here,

I feel where you're coming from. First things first, get yourself to a place of power and confidence. Women, unlike men, consider looks not as the very first and most important thing they look for in a man. Mostly, they just want a strong (and this doesn't always mean physically strong) and confident protector and leader. You need to go out, meet people in general, and work on not just your goals, but also a plan to put them into effect, and most importantly why you have the goals that you have, their purpose. What will truly drive you forward are health, well being, confidence, courage, and high self esteem. Be fun and have fun, don't even go looking for girls until you can just interact with people in general. Just have fun with it and set yourself some really good goals that will help to reframe your own reality. Remember that reality is what you make of it. What you believe is real is all that matters to you. Definately lift when you can and try swimming with a HIIT type routine while your wrist is still bothering you. I know you'll do well man, I can sense a happiness just waiting to find you and I know you'll make a great guy with a little work on your self image.



Need any help, pm me.

Knock em dead killer,
Pretty Boy