| Hey, all. I'm new to the art of pickup, and not very experienced with relationships with the opposite sex.
I'm a 24 year old AFC living in Los Angeles. I first heard of The Game about 3-4 months ago from, ironically, a youtube vlogger whom I sort of had oneitis for. In one of her vids, she talked about how she gets tons of comments from guys and recommended that we read "The Game" by Neil Strauss. If you're curious, her alias is "Angry Little Girl."
I'm more than halfway through with the book, but my progress has been halted due to college. I have, however, read a lot of online material about gaming in general. All of this opened my eyes on the possibilities out there, and how much my love life sucks balls right now. I was sort of a slacker in high school and spent most of my time playing computer games. Then when I got my act together in college, I decided to pursue a degree in physics, so I spent most of my time hitting the books and homework problems rather than going out there and socializing. I played games on my free time instead... and masturbating to porn.
Anyway, I've always worried about what would happen to me if all I did was focus on school. I'm also in the military (reserves), and just a couple of years ago, I went on a deployment to the Middle East (trying to avoid being too specific). I took the opportunity to try to build myself physically by working out, and explore other aspects of life besides study.
During the deployment, I felt mentally tortured for several reasons. Porn was not allowed. There were strict policies on relationships, yet I couldn't help but feel jealous at the hookups that went on anyway, and constantly wondered if anyone was sleeping with one another.
Long story short, when I got back, I took a trip to Vegas with a few buddies that I deployed with, and found myself to be a fish out of water. I normally suppress thinking about "inappropriate" sexual topics (with the exception of when I am masturbating, then that is when I let my mind wander), but that trip turned it all around. My buddies were talking about how they were going to get me laid. It was the first time I shaved my pubic hair, first time I walked into a strip club and got a lapdance, and the first time I went to a dance club. In that dance club, I remember being negged this shit out of by this girl who gave a constant disgusted stare and then proceeded to talk to her friends and ignore me like on purpose.
I'm sort of crying as I write this. I'm an emotional trainwreck. I lost my virginity to a prostitute. I've also felt deeply in love with this other sex worker, but realizing that it is unreciprocated. The only girlfriend I ever had was a lame online relationship in middle school with some fat chick with a toxic personality. I've been thinking a lot about the hidden world that I've only recently come into contact with - the world the includes people's private flings, the single life, drugs, prostitution, homelessness, sex trafficking.
Sorry about the wall of text, and I probably should see a mental health professional as well, but I feel like this is one community where I can have serious discussions about what I'm going through.
So that's my introduction... My goal is to continue on with my degree and be successful careerwise, but I also want to get the best out of the romantic aspect of life that I can get, which means I need to be better with girls and be able to attract someone who may possibly be very difficult to get and intimidating because of higher status, life experience, etc. I end up being that old guy you hear on the news getting arrested for child porn or anything like that and then being called creepy and perverted.
I really appreciate anyone who has read through this and any feedback you can give.
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