Went on a date with this girl I met in dance class (I'm in college), had a great time and got a second date! On the second date I picked her up at her house and had her give me tour of her town (where she grew up, the schools she went to), and we had tons of fun! After that, we went to the mall and got some tea from Teavana,( I had her buy me a cup of tea since I was paying for dinner), and we walked around the mall for an hour or so. This whole time I'm getting IOI's but she's a really shy girl, and has only opened up to me out of all the guys in the dance class. So after the mall we go get dinner and have some more fun you know me teasing her and I can tell she's really attracted to me. After dinner I run into a problem. You see, I live with my brother and hes a slob, so I didn't want to take her to my place, and she didn't want to go to her place because she lives with her brother and dad. So I told her about my brother being a messy person and asked if she don't mind the mess she could come to my place (since my room is clean). She agreed and as soon as we got there she met my brother and his wife, then we watched a movie. After the movie I looked at her and she practically bit my head off with her mouth! Long story short, I got all the way down to her pants and she would not let me take them off. Then she started acting shady. Telling me she had to go to work tomorrow so she had to go home soon. Keep in mind I asked her twice if she was a virgin and she wouldn't tell me. Did I scare her off? I asked her to hang out again this weekend and she comes up with this story that her friend she hasn't seen in 3 months is coming in from Hawaii so shes hanging out with her. Is there any hope?

Wow, she got a whiff of something she didn't like.

You must have done something... said something... insinuated something... Though you don't really indicate what that might be here - unless she was really not into sex and you just kept pushing it.

She's into excuse making - you're probably done and friendzoned... She still replying to your texts and calls? If she is you can try explaining things - or even asking what the fuck is up if you truly don't know...

I've never called her and talked it's always been through text message. I'm thinking maybe it's because I live with my brother that she got shady? Or because he's a slob? Maybe It was because I asked her if she was a virgin. She really strikes me as the virgin type. Anyway, after she said herr friend was coming I said to bad no cookies for you (we we're going to bake since she loves to do that), and she laughs and says you will bake me cookies haha. Then I say bring your friend over well all make some cookies! She says haha trust me you don't want that there's going to be like 8 of us. Then I say it's cool your friends would love me! :-p. and before she could text back I texted her Ill TTYL though goodnight! She hasn't texted me back since

Or maybe I should just text her something like this? "Hey i think were moving too fast, your still a cool person to hang out with so I would like to continue hanging out with you but we should slow things down."

By the way to introduce myself, I live in West Valley City, UT, im 28 years old, And i got into the game when I was 19, but didn't apply it until I was in the military a few years later. I met someone while using this stuff and unwisely married her. 6 1/2 years of army life, Four years of marriage and two kids later I'm back in the game! I'm going back to school using the Post 911 GI Bill and that's my only source of income, and I'm saddled with a bunch of debt from my marriage so I barely have enough money for myself let alone dating. I feel like I'm an attractive guy, but I live with my brother and that's hurt my confidence quite a bit. I really enjoy working on cars and I'm into real estate investing and working out. I'm determined to get this dating thing right because I don't want to "settle" like I did when I first got married. Thanks guys!

I wouldn't text her that...

Give her some time and let her text you first.

I see her three times a week at dance class, should I ignore her and talk to other girls?

And I should probably mention that she did let me finger her, and she seemed to really enjoy it (got her legs to shake and all). So I'm really confused why she would let me get so far and then clam up.

I think the "said something" wrong was asking her if she was a virgin just because she wouldn't give up the goods so easily.

Seriously, what the fuck were you thinking asking her TWICE if she was a virgin? That's just insulting and comes across as petty frustration on your part, something totally unattractive and weak. The rule for LMR is to act like it's not a big deal and to come back to it later on.

Anyway, she messaged you back and seemed pretty cool about it, just said her friend is coming to visit and you know what? Maybe she is visiting! Maybe, just maybe, she's not trying to ditch you or brush you off here. Shit like this happens all the time. I had a girl I closed the day before she moved to another country. Knew her for weeks and not once did she mention she was moving to another country until the very night I ended up scoring her. Chick wasn't lying as weird as it was to never be mentioned.

Don't do anything drastic. Relax, act like everything's cool and continue with her in college as you would normally. Ask when her friend is leaving/when she has free time then organise a meet up.

Thanks! That seems to be the advice everyone is giving. Just sit back relax and keep doing what I did to attract her in the first place!