| Hey man, I have only just found this site so I’m new to it too, but it's great to see a guy that has a girl and is looking to improve his relationship. To be honest whilst I don't know shit about all the PUA lingo, or the difference between a canned opener and a neg, I believe I might just be able to help you here.
First off, the key for looking after your girl and making her come is foreplay and eating her out. If you do it right, she will have probably come way before you even think about sticking your dingaling in her. And if anything, by simply trying your best to please her pussy she will be more receptive to helping you come and otherwise enjoy the sex regardless of whether she comes every time. What you should know is (and what any girl who is honest and experienced will tell you is) that this shit doesn't happen every single time, not with anybody, because sometimes, shit just ain't right and it just ain’t meant to be. But since you are already together and in a relationship, and have thereby gained her trust, I would say you have a better chance than anyone in making her come time after time, once you know how.
The second thing you should know is that orgasms from clitoral stimulation and vaginal stimulation are very different, but if you do it right with the clit, then when you do come to stick your dick inside her sweet pussy, she is more likely to come ‘x’ amounts of times. In fact if you do get good at eating pussy this chicken ain't ever gonna want to leave you, no matter how your dick makes her feel or how many moves you know. Tying her up sounds good and i'm sure it will work just as well, if not better if done right, because as you know she will be at your mercy and hanging on your every action, but truthfully even that shit gets old, so mix it up and never forget the basics. Without tape, rope, giant book of Karma Sutra and shit the trick to eating pussy is to take it nice and steady. Real nice and steady.
Always remember your girl IS special in that she is unique and so you my friend are going to have to do some of the leg work yourself to find out what really pleases her, what stroke off the tongue makes her shiver with pleasure and which amount of sucking her clit makes her squeeze your head with her legs, her back arch and arms fold back whilst screaming in excitement.
Thirdly, and as I'm sure you are well aware chicks aren't like guys, they don't get off looking in the mirror at themselves, grunting and making aggressive noises as they wank themselves silly towards a big explosive, squirting orgasm. A lot of the time you are going to have to read her signs, her body language and her behaviour to back up what she tells you she felt. The truth is she may well tell you she came even when she didn’t because she doesn’t want to hurt your feelings. But when she does come the way you want her to, 99% of the time you will be able to tell by her behaviour. You aren’t even going to have to ask her, she will be telling you about the stars and shit she was seeing explode in her mind as she is pushing your head away from the tingling pussy that you have just dominated with the mouth you kiss your mother with.
So yes, they are pretty fucking sensitive. So forget everything you ever saw in any stupid porno. It's almost 100% bullshit. Before you even get to taking your girls panties off she should be nice and wet, like soaking wet. In fact when you see a big wet spot on her panties or even her trousers right where her pussy is you know you are on to a winner. Begin with lots of kissing, grinding, teasing (touching her pussy with your knee or whatever whilst on top of her but never directly or obviously) telling her all sorts of shit to make her feel special, nibbling on her ears and generally making her feel nice and relaxed. Then when you do come to slipping her clothes off, you are going to want to be kissing every inch of her, paying special attention to basically all the places you can take a pulse or where her skin is sensitive I suppose (you should be able to tell this from common sense knowledge about your own body) including her neck, the small dips in her groin between where her leg and abdominals meet, her ass cheeks and backs of her thighs and sides of her body, even every imperfection. Break it up every now and again with a long lick across her body, don’t go crazy on the tits, they are really overrated and every other guy sucks on them like they breastfeeding, just suck them, bite them a little, kiss them and maybe move on. In fact one good tip is to flip her over at some point, lay her on her belly, maybe blindfold her (PLEASE DO NOT make it all seem like a process, like a checklist you are working your way through, it’s got to be natural, and flowing), then whilst again kissing her all over, lay on her back, put your weight on her, then lift up and proceed to lick her from her arsehole (or maybe just the small of her back) all the way up her spine, slowly to the hairline on her neck, in one steady motion and then go back to soft slow kisses on her back before preferably turning her back over on to her back and legs parted or if you want place her on all fours, with her ass in the air. Either way brush past her bra, removing it gracefully with one hand and the flick of a finger. You don’t want anything getting in the way of this moment. If you don’t know how to do this then learn. Shit, buy a bra from a charity shop if you have to and learn how to. It needs to be effortless and you need to make it look as though you know what you are doing.
At this point she should however still be in her panties, unless she has took them off herself because she just can’t wait (if so then don’t worry, just carry on either way). But make her wait! Make her anticipation grow until she just can’t take it anymore. By doing this you are looking to make it clear that the last thing in your mind is actually getting yourself off, and that you only care about her pleasure. Some might argue otherwise, but if you want to make her come, you need to make her relaxed, comfortable and have 100% complete trust in you. I would argue that this is more important than anything else.
Now if you have done it right your pretty little lady, should be laid there, all worked up and pussy soaking, ready to go. But make her wait for your beast. By now she should be soaking wet. Place the palm of your hand on the mound in her panties as though you have just noticed her pussy is there. At no point in this should you come across as a sexual predator, a beast looking to whack off inside her then brush her off like a piece of meat. Instead, think casa nova or some shit, I don’t know.
Once you have placed your hand on her pussy, lick it in one upwards sweeping motion from the bottom to top through her panties. Then steadily peel them off and place your head back down and get ready to go to town… but don’t! Remember TEASE HER! Kiss and lick her everywhere but her slit. Work on the area where her panties were, all the way up her thighs and maybe on up her calf and to her feet if you like.
By the time you even get near her pussy, her lips will have hopefully parted and her juicy wet cunt will be waiting for you, welcoming you with her inner muscles probably pulsating. By this point she might as well have a big neon sign welcoming you in. Now you are ready to eat that beautiful pussy whole!
Basically I don’t have to break every bit of this stage down to you, you have to go with the flow and see what works for yourself, but I can give you some pointers…
- Don’t go at it like an drunk guy eating a kebab. Take your time… as long as you have to really.
- Begin with nice steady sweeping motions up through her slit and each crevice of her lips.
- Don’t use your WHOLE tongue heavily all the time, eating her like you would a popsicle. In fact only intersperse the process with some heavy licks, resting your tongue on her just to show you have that in your arsenal of moves but don’t rely on it (like every other stupid guy who knows jack shit about eating pussy) and that you aren’t tickling her with the rear end of ball point pen.
- Flick your tongue, nice and steady at first, building up the speed towards her climax or as need be. You don’t need to be able to flick like the cock of a machine gun to get her off.
- Use the alphabet technique, it does work and it is easy for the bulk of cunnilingus and for learning, it mixes up the sensations, loosens her up and if you act like a dyslexic kid, skipping some letters and mixing it up and so on, she won’t be realise you are doing the old classic…
- Don’t go crazy with the fingers. Don’t poke your fingers (or fist for that matter) in like you are searching for treasure. You aren’t going to find it. Maybe stick it in to grow her anticipation for your cock entering but that’s all. In fact a good tip is to stick a finger or two in maybe two knuckles deep and press down firmly on the muscle that helps contract her arse while you are eating her pussy and working her clit. Hell, leave it sat in there for a while if you like. She will like it. It will help basically because it gives her the closest feeling of having a fat cock in there WHILST you are licking her clit and pussy with your tongue (which would be otherwise very difficult unless she also happens to be in to DP or some shit).
- Suck her clit. Bring that little fella out of his hiding place, make him stand tall and flick and suck him. I hope you know what her actual clit looks like, it’s like the pearl in an oyster and you have got to play with it if you want to get her to come.
- A good trick is to maybe break up all the super sensitive shit and literally grab the area of her skin around where her clit hood is in your fingers and pull it all up in the direction of her belly button if you know what I mean. What this does is actually makes her pussy play with itself, her muscles will begin to twitch and she will feel good sensations whilst you lick it if done right. It won’t hurt her, be gentle but firm, it isn’t going to fall off.
- Lick her whole pussy and maybe her asshole from bottom to top like a St Bernard dog would his dinner plate but only now and again, maybe breaking up your different moves.
- Work your tongue in different directions, find her good spots.
- Best pointer I can give you is actually that when you do get her clit all opened up, her lips well parted and pussy exposed, get your fingers on either side of her lips holding her open and then work her pussy with your tongue but REAL lightly, almost barely touching it, nice and soft, with the tip of your fully lengthened tongue, flicking it across and up and down, maybe put the whole clit area in your mouth and suck it (work out a good sucking volume for your girl), then go back to gently flicking it nice and slowly, well steadily, with your extended tongue. Do this for a while building up speed towards her climax, it seems to work wonders for me…
- Brush your lower lip against her pussy now and again, almost motting it up if you know what I mean.
- It sounds stupid, but hold her hands, they will probably be located just next to her hips at some point, easy for you to grab and will make her feel closer to you, and it will help her realise that this is you, another human, not her and not some stupid toy making her feel so damn good… (toys aren’t that stupid though to be honest, it might be worth investing in one to fool around with).
- At the start , work from a nice slow pace, warming her up, through to the mid-section of the feast working each area of her pussy, obviously with the bulk of the time spent on the clit, using different methods and parts of your tongue and fingers. Then for the end section, right where she begins to buck and squirm, focus on flicking and sucking that clit, maybe leave your finger in too as suggested whilst holding her pussy or leg apart with the other hand. Eventually you will feel her pussy pulsating and maybe juicing around and after the time she is coming.
- Buy some good anti septic cream for all the scratch marks on your shoulders and upper back from her clawing her finger nails in to you.
Finally when she does come, you are more than likely going to know about it I expect. Don’t be surprised if she pushes your head away. Apparently it can become just too sensitive down there for a couple of moments. She may or may not make some big panting or screaming noises but even if she doesn’t it doesn’t matter. She may or may not kind of arch her back then rise in to a full upright position or whatever, cradling your head in her pussy, my personal favourite, before laying back down, maybe eyes closed wondered what the fuck just happened to her. Her face and neck may flush red whilst she reaches the moment of ecstasy. She may not even talk for moment, just laying there calming down. Whatever she does, give her a moment, obviously don’t pull a clock out but go with the flow… then go up cuddle and kiss your girl… truth be told she may even just want to lay there (she is yours now ) for a minute, but if she’s a good girl she will probably also just want to fuck full on right after. If she does then just do whatever seems natural, mix up the positions, find out what works best for you both and honestly man, if you keep your timing good she may even come at least once more, maybe the two of you together.
Overall, take your time and enjoy making your girl come. Make her relaxed and comfortable and more than anything the key is to gain her trust. Enjoy every minute of it, even if your tongue is swollen and exhausted, don’t you quit. Generally, only when she feels special will she be able to come literally at your command. And believe me this will happen, she is going to be hanging on your every whim, but only when you make her feel special. Remember this is your girlfriend and not some drunken slut you met at a party. If you are seriously dating her then I’m sure you do respect her, and if you do this all that I have said will come natural, I shouldn’t really have to tell you. But you know what you got to do, make her feel special, then you can master her. It is one of the most beautiful things you can do to your girl and quite frankly I wish I was eating pussy right now rather than sat writing this, there is nothing better and no better way of making your girl come than eating her pussy. See what works for you both, take your time and figure her out. Remember what I said, don’t go at it like a Turkish kebab. Hopefully this will help you out mate. Good luck and have fun!
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