Hello,

I will just quickly introduce myself to everyone here. I am 34 years old and living in Germany. Currently single even though there is this one girl I am pretty much interested in (opened up a topic on it already). Amazingly I have to deal with a whole bunch of different people at work every day (doctor at a hospital) and absolutely have no problem with that at all. Guess that has to do with me being comfortable with my profession, knowing that I have been in med-school and thus know a great deal about the specific field I am working in.

But when it comes to private life or rather women, I am the complete opposite. Basically dating is a pain for me. I have a hard time expressing my feelings as well as reading women. I tent to interpret too much into a girl not texting for a day and this drives me crazy. I had long-term-relationships but being single again is not easy.

So that is me in a nutshell...

Hi man,

I am also German and also new here. I am currently dating a nurse and for me it seems that nurses are one of the best type of girls. Have you never tried to date a nurse? I mean you would not have do DHV much as you are a doctor and by that have already a high status to them.

Interested to get to know more about your progress.

Regards

I try not to fuck the company, so to speak. At least I don't want to date anyone that works at the same hospital as I do.

Plus, I try to separate private and work life as much as possible. I know that some doctors run around bragging about what they do and thus attract girls/women. Personally I don't do that. Would be nice to have them like me for the person I am and not what I am making a living of.

Dude you are doctor, by what your job defines you in a way! You are one of the very rare person that have a job they live for. You shouldnt seperate your job from your person! I would recommend in another way if you were investment banker (like i am) because thats nothing personal, you know?

Why shouldnt girls dont like you because you are doctor? It is a big part of you and your personality, so why bother if that attracts them?!

Would you feel awkward dating a nurse?

Cheers

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This probably came over the wrong way. I absolutely have no problem dating a nurse, in fact, the one girl I am seeing/or not seeing at the moment (girl-drives-me-crazy-vt174896.htm), is a nurse. Just not at the hospital I am working at.

Of course my job is a huge part of my life, I never doubted that. And if a girl asks me what I do, I do tell them. BUT I don't go around bragging about what I do. I have a few friends, doctors as well, that use their job to their advantage in order to get in bed with women/girls. Me, I don't see myself doing that (yet).

Wouldn't that attract too many superficial girls? "Shitty personality, but hey, he is a doctor... I don't care about the rest..." Maybe I am too picky?

There's a huge difference between going around and bragging like a pretentious snob and DHV. Everyone is superficial to some extent. Whenever I hear doctor, lawyer, etc., my mind automatically compares to what I've dated in the past. If I hear that I think "this guy's got his shit together. He's educated, ambitious, and dedicated."

Welcome to the forums friend: ) don't be afraid to mention what you do for a living. As far as being analytical, I'm much the same way. I read into everything. It helps to have a rotation. 3 or 4 people you talk to regularly to keep your mind of the one that got under your skin.

You are probably right to have more than one option at a time. Even though I have to admit that this girl really got under my skin and I can't even explain why.

Maybe it has to do with the fact that she is a nurse and thus around doctors all the time. So she knows that we are nothing special, just regular human beings with flaws as well. That is something I really appreciate. Kind of keeps you grounded if you are not looked at as something special.

The way you put it, " he got his shit together, is educated and ambitious...", this puts a different perspective on it as well. Just not sure if that is the first thought a girl has when I tell her what I do.

The current girl, she just understands the demands of the job but at the same time makes no big deal about it either.

So yeah, I really gotta try getting her out of my head.

I really am not used to myself acting like I do at the moment... Looking at my cell, hmmm, no message or call, even though she was online an hour ago. Why doesn't she write?

It really annoys me at times...

Hello man. I'm new here to. Let me tell a little about myself:
I'm a 19 years old engeneering student from Brazil. I don't suck with woman, but after a frathouse friend of mine borrowed me a book by Neil Strauss( Style ),I realized I can be with the women that I actually fell atracted to, not just the easy girls I've been dating.Hope I can help ,and be helped by everybody here.