Long time sufferer with a girl. Keep getting my hopes up every other year, hit a brick wall try to forget about her, ultimately end up repeating the cycle. When said like that it sounds a lot like oneitis, hell I'm not even going to try and say it isn't but I don't see myself as the generic average frustrated chump. I've went through a lot of changes in the last few years, I was heavily depressed and suffered anxiety for a few years finally breaking out of it over the last two. I've dabbled with pick up artist sites before but never stuck to them. I do plan on retrying the game book in the new year. Since overcoming depression I've developed myself as a person and have improved with women, not a player by any standards but as I'm better than I was. I'm happy in myself, have self acceptance, confidence and employ the method of letting women come to me. I find if I just concentrate on having a good night interactions with women just happen and as they initiate them I feel more confident in the interactions. I also use indifference and kino (the art of touching) to a satisfying degree. I try not to chase women. I have developed a better grasp of attraction and how it works in the last year or two. At the moment I'm concentrating on college and my own ambitions. I'm not too bothered about scoring but I just thought I'd run my situation past people with experience for their insight. Recently moved to the same city as my friendzone, I invited her to a screening of a short film I made and she came with her boyfriend I was unaware she had. We always had a good rapport but it has been lacking a sexual element. As I said I feel I have changed a lot in the last two years. I wanted to convey that to her without pushing it in her face and I guess for someone to notice that you've changed as a person takes time. I changed the opinion of another girl I was friendzoned with but wasn't bothered when I had the chance. My changing of the other friendzone girls opinion motivated me to keep trying with the first mentioned friendzone girl. After the situation with her inviting her boyfriend to the thingy I kept my contact with her to the bare minimum, we went for dinner once with me laying a little kino to which she wasn't entirely dismissive. Since this dinner/essentially a coffee I had cut off all contact for a few months. Declining any invites from her. I felt the power dynamic change as it was always her who contacted me, we met a week or two ago and I kept my distance as she attempted to start conversation in a kind of weak manner a number of times, she seemed sad that we hardly met since I moved to the new city. I kind of deciphered through facebook that she and her boyfriend broke up in the last week. I messaged her randomly the other day and she mentioned going to the cinema, she didn't invite me but it seemed like she was putting it out there for me to invite myself. I messaged her the next day and we went, when I arrived at her house she was pretty well dressed up. I left my bike at her house to give me an in to go back there after(I find scoring can be a lot about being in the right place at the right time:) ). I knew it was a non-date before going but I thought I might charm her. We had some banter on the way and I know the cinema isn't great for building a vibe since yer not talking for like two hours but it's the way it happened. After the cinema we went for for drinks, I payed which she seemed to admire my gentlemanliness. She seems comfortable with me touching her (kino, not groping) but doesnt reciprocate the touching. I nearly always have her squealing with laughter, she keeps good eye contact and always seems to be playing with her hair when talking to me(not that I think these seal the deal, it's just the way it is). I have been presenting higher social status and the idea of me as someone who is appreciated by the opposite sex over the last while (I think). I did notice her check out a guy or two, I know it's a bad sign but I do it myself when on dates and she seem quite entertained by me besides. There may have been some slight awkward silences but the vibe wasn't terrible as we walked back to hers, silence can be good for tension from time to time. We got chips went back to hers but the vibe wasn't great conversation ended up on calorie counts, I lay back on the couch but the body language wasn't really coming from her. I took that as a sign and left. As I written this out it seems to have spelled itself out for me but is there something I could have done differently? could I have just put my hand on her shoulder or something? Have you gotten past cold body language by just reaching out?
When I'm not getting in the way I myself I can develop a vibe with her she does seem to respond well to my kino, I put her hat on her at one point during the night and she was all giggles, as she is when I put myself out there a bit. I wonder is it that I'm just feeling awkward at times and it holds me back from doing things that could escalate the flirting.
I've heard a good way of getting over a friendzone girl and/or getting out of the friendzone is to score around. It's not that I'm against that idea at all I am just genuinely concentrating on college and haven't been out that much in the last while. I'm pretty sure I have a done deal with a girl in college that I won't be holding back on collecting. While I do think this friendzone girl is special its more that I think shes perfect for me,but It's not that I'm holding back on scoring elsewhere. I know it can only improve my situation.

Does it seem like a lost cause to you? I am coming around to the idea that it's her loss and if she doesn't appreciate me that's her problem and not mine.

Ok fuck that I am an average frustrated chump, just been scanning around the site. Found my way onto some Julien RDS Vids and have been watching them since. I'm psyched, I already don't drink and understand the concept of getting into the zone (as in to have fun) when going out sober but I haven't applied it to women. I'm feeling confident. Fuck this oneitis shite. Time to put it behind me.

Ok since my last post I've been opening everyday. Relying on asking for lighters at first but moving on to just anything. Went out the last night by myself and opened four girls and a boyfriend/girlfriend (I imagine that still counts as opening in the early phases). Had to meet my sister in a shopping centre yesterday and opened about ten girls while there by asking for directions mostly but I realised I don't really need to know directions, I can just pretend to not know where I'm going. The more I've been opening the more I feel comfortable flirting. Could have gotten a number yesterday if I pushed the situation. I've started reading the chasegirls site working my way through it. The last few days has me thinking that as long as I keep opening the more comfortable I will get talking to women and flirting and it will just take on from there. Not that I won't be reading up but I think thats the main thing to keep talking to opening and as time goes on I will get more comfortable progressing through the stages. Or is that too safe? should I be pushing myself more to get numbers? even if it feels awkward at first? I don't see much point in asking for a number if the vibe isn't good. And have heard Julian(I think) say to nourish your soul not kill it.

I'm having a fantastic first week of gaming. Fantastic blowjob off a HB9 Zoe Deschannel look alike. It was my second night sarging alone.