I am currently a freshman in college, Eastern Michigan University. I'm 18, new to pua. My friend told me about this.
So i meet this girl. We became friends, but i really like her. I asked her out, but she said no. Then she shows me a picture of her in bondage. Plays footsies with me and other things. I'm seriously confused and frustrated. Any advice?

I'm new as well, but this same thing has happened to me, here is how I turned it around. I blew her off. If she showed up while my friends and I were hanging out I would say something like, "oh, it's you" or "not again!" If she showed me a picture of her new "boyfriend" I'd say "sucks to be him" but continue letting her flirt with you. DON'T apologize! ever! if you feel you crossed the line with her(which you should get kinda close) screw it! she already turned you down. KINO with her in ways she KINO's with you, but escalate it. if she plays footzie with ya, roll with it, take it a bit further with strong, confident moves. kiss her neck when you hug, grab her knee and tickle her if she plays footize etc. etc

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"Life is what happens while you're busy making other plans."

This is very good advice, realize it probably wont work, but it is about your best option at this point.

Dude, you should be confused. She's either f'ing with you to see where your thoughts are...

...or she's kinky and wants a one nighter. The later is less likely unless she's a freak and has absolutely NO idea what bondage really is. Bondage is a trust situation (don't ask me how I know. I just do) and bondage on a first 'date' is VERY risky as you do not know exactly who you're dealing with when they allow you to tie you up (unless its you who is tied, then you have to REALLY worry).

If it were me in your shoes, I would say something like "Wow, that's pretty interesting. Do you do this often? Do you do this alone with someone or with a group? How many times have you done this? You really gotta trust someone to do this. Does this bother you?" Now these seem ridiculous to ask, but 1) bondage is serious play and 2) you're really trying to get her to open up to you. That is, you might find that she's f'ing with you. If she's all into bondage, then I would ask her to tell you more about her bondage experiences. If she's lying, you should get a pretty good idea quickly. She will stumble and trip herself.

I personally don't think she has a clue, what both of you being under 21. I think she's yanking your chain. But that's me.

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Thanks,

WGY

"Do you have some good openers for Chinese girls?"
"They usually don't need an opener. Most of them are the pull-tab kind."

Don't GAF, just DGAF (think about it)

Fear is the mind killer. Anger is the mood killer.

Your putting too much importance on this girl, She already said no when you asked her out......you could ask her out again if you really wanted (I would actually suggest inviting, key word, inviting her over to your place next time she wants to play footsie, that will give you some perspective at least). But don't get too hung up on it....it's not a big deal. Your in college man, you got a lot of women to choose from there. It's really not as big of a deal as your making it out to be.