Hey all

So I'm new to this PUA business. I'm going through a bit of a rough patch so hoping to get some useful advice and help others where i can too.

So I'll try not too bore you too much but here goes...
I'm 31, I've had numerous long-term relationships, a handful of one night stands and a few min relationships.

I don't lack confidence as I feel like I'm in good physical shape, have a good job etc (the superficial stuff that really matters) and I'm no inhibited most of the time.

So why I'm here...I basically don't get the girl I really want often enough and when I do I get hugely anxious and manage to screw things up. Just today a girl I've been dating for for a short time called things off. On paper she's the girl of my dreams and we had an awesome time. Not sure what i did wrong buy i'm obviously not doing things all that right. For girls I really like the game is over way too quickly.

So put simply, I'm feeling like crap right now and would love to get some 'inner game' tips.

where in uk pal?

You fucked up because you placed her higher on your list than you were on hers. Even if you're an Adonis or the richest guy in the world if you shower a woman or let her know you're too into her it's a massive turn off. Unconsciously you most likely conveyed this to her in your posture and mannerisms in general.

Biggest tip is basically to be confident in your inner and outer game. If you've got that just follow simple routines and learn how to approach and open on women. Learning PU will essentially teach you some things that most people don't pick up on or foolishly don't believe in.

PUA isn't magic, it's not even a backdoor into a woman's pants. It's a set of social rules essentially. It's rules on how to act important, how to function socially and how to draw attention to yourself in a good way. Most importantly it's a set of acceptable rules towards women and their attraction towards you and how to interpret their actions.

If you haven't already read some of the more well known PU books like The Game, Mystery Method and The Natural but focus on one method first and later branch out. I would suggest reading MM if you want a step to step guide and understanding on terminology and interpretation. If you want to read a good story that offers some good information with good enough introduction to each step read Neil Strauss' book.

Personally I would read The Game followed by Mystery Method as MM can be quite heavy for the first four or five chapters where The Game is actually a good and enjoyable read that will really introduce you to a lot of key areas of PU. From here decide what works best for you.

Welcome to PU. If you try at it you'll notice some huge improvements in picking up women and maintaining interest there. You'll end up having so many numbers and so many women craving your attention. You'll even have situations where women will go behind their friends backs just to get a piece of you.

I'm in London. You?

[quote="GamesSN"]You fucked up because you placed her higher on your list than you were on hers. Even if you're an Adonis or the richest guy in the world if you shower a woman or let her know you're too into her it's a massive turn off. Unconsciously you most likely conveyed this to her in your posture and mannerisms in general.

Thanks for your message. I could not agree more. That's my problem, I put women on 'higher on my list' than I am on theirs.

Currently reading The Game but no so sure about MM stuff, I feel more naturally suited to DD's works. I'm on te beginning of a journey and look forward to reporting back. Already enjoying things.

Thanks

Jstarz

ah Im up Manchester way,, Im sure youl find someone to game with in London.. rife with women!

True but hard ones to crack. Have less success in London than anywhere else

I agree. Any successes I've had there have been quite random. I guess being a city girl goes to their head.

Its funny reading your post. I had to to double check that I had not posted it. Totally the same situation right now, I have had good runs in the past mind and know I will again soon, but these last months/2/3 years, been rubbish, I know its not down to the way I look, i know its all internal, i know I am a mess. I have had periods of my life where I have been in the zone so at least I really know it's doable, I just need to get back in the way. Nice reading others are in the same situation, makes me feel a little more confident just knowing I am not alone.

Best to you