Hello everyone. Im Smart-E, im from Oxford in the UK and im an acting student. I have just started to read Neil Strauss's "The Game" and have decided to get serious in learning the art of seduction as i think i have the potential to be very good at it. I do however have a few blocks already. I have always found it difficult to approach women. I just shit my pants and get choked. I find myself becoming a bit of a creep, staring at girls trying to pluck up the courage to go over and talk to them. Tell me please someone, how do i get rid of this stupid man in the back of my mind telling me that this beautiful girl over the other side of the room is way out of my league??
-- Smart-E

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Smart Thinking!!

A man by the name of Babe Ruth comes to mind.

He struck out over 1400 times in his career, but he managed to jack out over 700 homeruns over the course of his career.

He had a drive to be the best he could possibly be. In order to have that the word Failure has to completley escape your mind. What is failure when you really think about it? Its nothing. Everyone strikes out. The ones who can deal with rejection and learn from it are the ones that ultimatley do well.

Think of failure not as an obstacle you can avoid, but as something you have to deal with head on. The second you start dealing with it in a positve way thats when your fear of approach will fade away. It takes time.

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Chess Theory - "She thinks shes the queen, but the queen is just a pawn with a bunch of fancy moves"

^^^ Good advice right there. It will take time and I'm still dealing with it myself I really gotta work on my cold approaches

But out of the cold approaches I do, I just use the three second rule (that is approach within 3 seconds of spotting a girl you'd like to talk to. It eliminates the time you spend getting nervous and backing down and makes you just go for it.) also, I imagine that I own the place wherever it happens to be and that she is just a visitor in MY hangout. I read something great just yesterday but damn my memory I forgot who wrote it. It went something like this: Just think of each attempt, failure or not, as beneficial to you. Because whether failure, or victory, it will still teach you a lesson and helps you get better!

~Muse

I just watched the movie, "The Tao of Steve" which I thought was great. It is based around a PUA, an overweight, not very attractive guy getting chicks. He doesn't really go directly with what we call game, slightly AFC, but his points are great, "Eliminate your desires, Be excellent, and retreat." I find these are three good points in pick up, and I feel all should live by them.

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I agree, the 3 second rule will help your cold approach aniexity completley disappear. Not only does it make the chick feel like your just a sponatneous guy by not standing around thinking what to say and looking like a creep, it happens in just 3 seconds so it forces you to find comfort in yourself the more you do it.

Think about routines you do without even thinking: covering your mouth when you sneeze, using your turn signal in your car are all examples of things that just come naturally day to day. This to will be one of them

Not only will cold approaching help you with women, it will help you in every social enviornment you can put yourself in. Good luck man and you will be very well rewarded the second you cold approach on a consistent basis.

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Chess Theory - "She thinks shes the queen, but the queen is just a pawn with a bunch of fancy moves"

Snap! "The Game" is what brought me here.
I'm actually on a slightly different mission here....gotta work on my game to pick up babes for my woman and me.

I used to be a bit of a player, up to my late 20's, when I foolishly decided to "settle down", and played at being married for the next 18 years.
Sure, I flirted during those times, and could have scored, but I remained faithful. What a waste of 18 years! By the time I settled down I guess I'd bedded over a hundred chicks (not as great a score as it might sound, cos some of this was during the Woodstock era, when everyone was banging just for the hell of it.)

I've sorta been with my current woman for last 6 years, but we play a bit and have stuff going on outside our own relationship from time to time.
And we only see each other every second week, cos we've both got custody of kids during the other week.......
And during the week's that I don't see her, I see so many hot babes in supermarkets, and coffee shops and so on, and I think to myself "damn, I need to polish up on my routine, because I could score this babe under the right circumstances".

Foe example, on New Year's Eve I met this gorgeous woman - 39 and separated - and we got on like a house on fire. She gave me her number, and then her friends - a married couple who were her guard dogs - cruelled my chance to get her back to our hotel so my gal and I could have some fun with her. So I need to work on counters to blockers from friends and so on, so that I can get guard dogs etc out of the way. My gal can act as the wing man, but sometimes you're just plain outnumbered.......

I know I've still got some of the moves - I managed to bed a 21yo the year I turned 50, and she was rather tasty to boot, but as Neil Young says - "Rust Never Sleeps", and I need to polish up some of my surfaces.

Anyhow, looking forward to reading more on this site, once I finish "The Game"

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"Eternal is the warrior who finds beauty in his wounds."

muse u mentioned the three second rule and how it doesnt let u get nervous and what not but it also doesnt give her enough time to form an opinion of you quickly except for the fact that you seem sociable and DHV because it wasnt that difficult for you to go over to her