Hey everyone,

I have read over this site, a lot in the past, but thought I would finally come here for a bit of advice. So I started talking to this girl recently and we have a lot of the same goals in life. IE: School, future career, life goals, etc. etc. She has always been a mutual friend of mine through a buddy but he never cared for her, so I don't feel like I am breaking any bro (code) rules here. Not that they really apply anyways. She is the kinda girl that if I brought home to the parents... They would love instantly kinda girl. I am a senior in college and will be heading out of here soon, so I figured I might as well start a relationship for post college. Another plus with this girl is that she is a good friend with an ex-girlfriend of mine... who was always the destructive type. This girl constantly brought me down and tried to change me, but I always held my ground and my balls... and refused to change. She grew upset with me and eventually left.

Back to the current situation with this new girl... When we first actually started talking it was via facebook and she agreed with me about the ex's destructive behavior. Now that she has finally heard both sides of the nasty unclean breakup... we have started talking again. Not only is this a girl I see myself with in a long term relationship, but having the next year... to hang around her with my ex will be very satisfying. When we broke things off she spread a bunch of rumors and drama about us... and lets just say some mutual friends thought differently of me after that :/. You live and you learn though am I right? The opportunity to build a new relationship with this other girl, and ignore the drama from my ex is something that I find very appealing. I know this will irritate my ex enough that she will show her true colors... and everyone will know I wasn't crazy. Plus the new girl will see her jealousy and be there to defend my side.... its a no lose really.

I want it to be clear that the girl I am seeing tonight I really do care about. I am not planning on using her in anyway to get back with my ex-girlfriend. I am not a (Fill in the blank here).... So here is my main question...

The girl I am interested in is planning on coming over tonight to watch a movie. She is a catholic girl and really hates all forms of drugs and alcohol. Honestly this is probably a good influence to have in my life anyways, because I don't have the best track record with booze.

Flipping on some dumb regular movie and pouring a glass of wine wont work in this situation... to make her feel comfortable (Again she doesn't drink). I thought about putting on a horror movie while we were talking earlier, but she was very adamant about letting me pick as long as its not scary. She texted me saying that if the movie ends up being scary when she arrives that she just wants to watch T.V. instead. SO....

I know that this movie needs to be a slightly scary one, so it will put her out of her comfort zone. The I don't wanna sleep alone tonight kinda mood, and I also know that I cant be obvious about it. I want her to jump and throw her arms around me, so the touch barrier stuff is down and she can become more comfortable with the idea.

If your thinking well she sounds like a really nice girl... who you should move slow with... I also know her past... She is not innocent herself and if the pace and mood is set right it will happen. I am looking to jump into this before school starts, so that by Sept we can be together but independant our Senior year. Thus I pose this question to you guys...


What are some movies that are scary, but don't come off as a scary movie.... That still has those moments of OMG!?! Yes titles to the movies are important and shouldnt imply scary or the summary either.... please let me know soon.... the date is later tonight.

All I can think of off the top of my head is... Signs

Also any advice is also welcome I am experienced in this walk of life, but constructive criticism is always welcome.

PS: Sorry for the super long thread with background information... along with the drama... I hate drama too. But getting even is my style... especially if I find love in the process while raising my social value. Its like having your cake and eating it to .

Thanks Bizman out!

Wow. Lots of stuff going on here.

1. She's a good innocent girl, the type Mommy would love.
2. Possibly your friends girl that doesn't care about her enough, but no worries you will save her.
3. She's your ex's friend but you hate drama?
4. You hate drama, but you want this girl to cause your ex to "show her true colors"?
5. You hate drama but love revenge?
7. Again she's a good girl, but has a sorted past?
8. She hates scary movies, but you want her to watch one on the sly so that she will leap into your protective arms? Because she doesn't drink and a roofie would be obvious?

What the fuck ever happened to "She's cute I just want to hang out and fuck her"?

Anyway, you asked about a movie. I'm going to recommend one, but it's not scary at all, but the title sounds a little 'scary' so she will think that's why you picked it. (Get a scary one for backup in case you fuck this up.)

Hysteria- A British period romantic comedy.

The truth of how Mortimer Granville devised the invention of the first vibrator in the name of medical science.

It very subtly get her thinking about SEX, HER SEXUALITY, and the opportunity to openly talk about SEX.

Then guess what happens?

She gets horny as HELL! DUH!

Do you want her in your arms? Or in your bed?

But YOU seem to like drama. maybe get a drama?

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Thanks for the advice and it sounds like a solid plan. Seriously though date rape isn't cool and not funny to joke about. I just find that a single drink helps set the mood, but thanks again for the advice.

The I don't wanna sleep alone tonight kinda mood, and I also know that I cant be obvious about it.

Why not?

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