Hey fellow PUAs,

My nickname is Ribeyed or Ribs for short. I'm 38 years young, from bonny Scotland.

I've just recently found my way into the PUA community after a long breakup with my old self. I convinced myself for about 7 years that I didn't need anyone and that I was better off to just focus on myself and not bother trying to meet anyone. What I fool I feel now haha!

I've never had problem speaking to girls or anyone for that matter my issues were around escalation and trying to hard to be a 'Nice Guy'. I even once got dumped and was told I'm to much of a 'Nice Guy'. Like most guys I thought this was what I had to be.

I was brought up in a family where it was all females and my parents slip when I was young so I only had female influences. My mum had a big family of sisters so I was always around Aunties. All they would talk about is asshole men and how they wanted 'Nice Guys' dam I was so conditioned into believe that's how I was meant to be.

A few months ago I decided I would start to get back into dating, I was still in AFC mode and managed to get a date from a girl and she was all over me but I was still thinking I must prove I'm a nice guy. Anyway we went out for a meal, then drinks, then nightclub and my old intuition was telling me she was into me. I failed to escalate and ended up missing out on a obvious opportunity to sleep with her. Well that was it, I knew there was something wrong with my approach.

I came across Bobby Rio's stuff and that was my intro into like a totally different world. Like Alice in Wonderland stuff, what an eye opener. Then I watched the first season of Mystery's Pickup artist and I found my way here.

I current work as a programmer, have done for the last 13 years. I'm not you're normal geek programmer haha! I have no problem with talking to people and no problem talking to ordinary girls it's just the hot ones I seem to have an issue with. I've had a lot of relationships but they have always been with girls I've just felt I've accepted because they would have picked me and not the other way around.

I know what my issues are and I'm currently working through them and I hope that I can get advice from here should I need any. I've been so blind to IOIs in the first place. I don't think I realised how import they are to know a girl is attracted and now I am looking I can see them all the time when I talk to girls. My problem is escalating, I had no idea how to take the IOIs and move on to next part/stage.

Anyway I'll not go on too much here. I hope I can find the answers I need here on this forum. That's to all who take the time to read this book haha!

Kind regards


Ribs