Hi all,
Short story:
I'm a guy, around 25 years old, located in central/eastern Sweden, with best friends in both genders which most likely would describe me as cool
. I have always been the naturally alpha male around my friends in the term of being good breaking ice, creating events, taking contact with people.
Long story:
So why I'm here? Well something happen around the age of 15, I was invited to TV which was funny for me as that kind of stuff including theater was what I by the moment thought where going to be my future (You know young and dreaming...). People took the opportunity to make fun of me and since then I have never really, on the inside, considered myself as confident in anything.
The mix of naturally taking the role as alpha male in all situations doesn't work because I don't believe in myself but still I keep doing it, pissing many people off that doesn't know me and the number of laids totally is around 5. I think most of my friends would guess on a lot more, maybe 20-30, because they see me as that confident.
I've got the social skills by nature since I recently got diagnosed with ADHD, (which none of my friends would ever guess) but I have known for 24 years that I'm a bit different. Kinda making people happy all the time by saying things without thinking, inner stress, hard to sleep, easy disturb. I'm a really nice guy so if you think like a lot of people do in Sweden that ADHD = Monkey brain, Drugdealers and evil people at school, well that's not true anywhere.
I've been killing myself slowly from the inside, instead of focusing on everything good I've thought that I'm ugly, frighten of starting to loose some hair (like style), 1.67 tall/short, fat, can't dance and not a huge dick (around 1.5 inch I think my last gf met it too), kinda ugly teeths and with the ADHD I thought first looked at myself as a fucking retard. ADHD rarely comes alone and I got the bonus feature (diagnosed) of not being able to remember a face for e.g. 5 meetings.
People say that this doesn't work anymore and that all people have read the game and therefor understands all the techniques. I've just started out with a few books, videos and text and just by my daily "inner game" training has already paid so much back (most at work this far).
When I started to look at what I could do about the things I'm not proud of I realized that it was easy to loose weight, dropped from 83 to 69 kilos in three months. That made a snowball effect that I could fit in new clothes so I bought slim pants and shirt and brought them to work. People keep telling me how cool that was and how I encouraged them.
About the height I found some shoes called lifts which made me more average with another 6cm. I went to the dentist this week and we have started to work on that too. All those small things, I need to get back up, and then I will hopefully not need e.g. the shoes anymore, when my confidence is maxed.
Today I took a walk instead of Emailing. Everyone was genuine happy to see me at the customer but for me it was a big step. Another thing; presentations is not my thing, but instead of handing them over to other people, I do them myself now days. Sometimes with terrible result, but I really don't care, afterwards I'm playing my PUA songs if I feel totally success or another good song for not skipping the opportunity and telling myself "hay, cool that you did it w/e result".
I've started on a private "diary" and when I reach a new goal I will post it. Last page was about talking to a new person in the food store, I didn't manage to do this, but at least I went there, found a target.
SUM
+ Ice breaking Entré of club or similar when there are a single girl and I've a few beers in my body
+ Ice breaking situations like, new employee & people visiting my friends (Comfort zone?)
+ I care about other people and love to listen to them
+ Saying funny stuff without thinking
+ Eager, I ALWAYS reach my goal (Getting laid with the girls however haven't really been a goal, more a bonus)
+ Good at writing, thinking outside the box etc. so when I understand everything about what makes e.g. a good opener good and have some more confidence, I'm sure I will manage to make them for the current moment.
- Ice breaking outside of clubs, food (and other stores), bus stops, night and day game.
- Saying stuff that might hurt people (Medication helps a lot here, but then I can't beer)
- Presentations, virtually and in person
- Problems keeping stuff in my head, like details, colors of walls, shapes etc.
At this moment, my training is the most important thing in my life, I'm giving it 100% so I can play my game the way it's meant! But I have to do it in small steps, that is my way and that's how I always start.
The ball is in rolling, this is going to be fun as hell.
CHAT