to get back with my ex. I bought some program called text your ex back - I don't have that much faith in it, but we will see. It's been a little over a month and I know exactly why she broke up with me -- I was too available. The program says to wait at least a month before I start texting her and yesterday was the one month so I sent her this text as instructed:

"Just caught myself thinking about you. I'm really glad you were in my life. Hope youre doing great:)"

She responded: Really good to hear from you! The feeling is mutual. Hope you are great too!"

Not sure how to interpret that...

You wasted your money.

You will never get her back, sorry to say.

You might get her back for a little bit, and you probably will even fuck her a few times.

But you'll never get her back in the way you really want.

Best thing for you to do right now is focus on yourself and get out there and meet new people..

For your own sake, follow the "guide" and try to get her back, so you will be able to achieve the level of closure you need and learn for next time.

Have you been with any other girls since her? If not your going to be a nervous wreck if you do meet up with her and then you've stuffed it up forever.

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LOL. I would believe you if the bottom of your post didn't say coaching available. Probably another scam.

Enjoy learning the hard way.

I look forward to reading about your progress.

You will be a better man on the other side.

And you're calling my advice a scam when it's free when you've already paid money on a "textyourexback" guide?

*FACEPALM*

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Oh no he didnt

Pretty sure the forum is for sharing experiences, helping out, not dropping one liners ending with "FACEPALM". Real mature.

I gave you advice (solid advice) and you replied by calling me a scammer...pretty sure the forum isn't for that either.

There's plenty of guys on here that have been in the same position...go through the Relationships section and read some advice that they have given other guys trying to get their ex back.

You will soon see it's a complete waste of time.

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I agree with every word Healing said.

If you broke up, then there was a reason.
Unless one of drastically changed, then neither will the relationship.

You'll find that there's no magic bullet to convince her to date you.

On to the next one.
If you stick around here you'll find help with that.

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Sidenote: Coaching is a regular occurrence around these parts.

Coach = someone with experience willing to offer it to others.
Textyourex = Scam.

I'm at the exact same position as you are my friend. A month ago my ex and I broke up, and right now I still wouldn't mind being with her.

This is how I perceive it and I can't say it's right or wrong. Just my two cents.

My suggestion is to take care of yourself and keep her out of your mind, as hard as it might be. You have to interest her, and this is most likely to be done with something new. Go out and try something that you've never done before. Also get more interested in her hobbies. If you get her back, the hardest thing will be to keep her around. Similar interests would help that. A thing that you should also keep in mind is to look your best.

^This will move you toward more chance of getting back with her as well as you progressing as an individual. To get back with her you have to be at a point where you don't mind too much if it doesn't work out.

As far as texting her, keep it casual and similar to you being old friends. Your main goal is to casually meet. Best case scenario would be meeting accidentally somewhere (well, she can consider it accidental) If you can't do this, break out a conversation through texting and ask her out to lunch to catch up. Once you guys meet, DHV as much as you can. Be casual and friendly. Smile and don't mention the break up. Just make her laugh and let her talk. Try to make her as comfortable as you can. Once you're done, tell her that you guys should do this again sometime or try to keep a specific second meeting in mind (maybe you are thinking of going to see one of her favorite bands playing, or maybe you already have tickets...)

Just show her that you're doing well off and what she is missing. She should want to be with you. You're the fucking man.

You're probably right. I have no chance of getting back together with her b/c it ended for a reason and she is set on that reason.

I fucking suck at life. I think I reek of neediness b/c girls get that impression after like a month. But I am fucking awesome which sucks for them in the long run. But it doesnt really help me b/c I have no one to share my awesomeness with.

Stop looking for a relationship, find comfort in many women rather then one. Once you develop an abundance mentality, you will be better suited for a relationship.

Go into any interaction with women with the mindset that it is just casual, if something comes of it so be it, if not! that is fine too. This should eliminate the needy persona you may give off.

The best relationships to have are the one's that come without looking or wanting. The ones that come naturally.

It's in your best interest at this time, to let yourself be guided by your little head rather then your big head.

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I agree with everything you said...but how can I stop looking for a relationship if that is all i want? How can I stop with that mentality? Like what are the steps?

The step is to find your mission and purpose in life.

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Well put. I don't have much direction.

I'm in the same situation man; I want the one girl I can't have because I screwed it up. My plan of action is to get really good at pickup and to enrich my life with as many other women as possible. You can achieve this by reading a bunch of pickup material and putting it to practice. And be warned, it does take alot of practice to get good.

How will accomplishing this help you get that particular girl? There are three reasons.

1- She will find you more attractive because she'll consider you pre-selected by other women. (This is one of the most important "attraction switches", which I'm sure you'll read heaps about)

2- Having this abundance of women will eradicate all neediness from your temperament.

3- Once you have this vast range of knowledge and experience, you'll understand what it is you must do to get this girl.

OR, you might realize that one or five of the twelve girl's you're seeing are better!

I wish you the best of luck, because you obviously have this girl's best interest at heart.

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