I'm a 45 y.o. AFC coming out of a 11 month relationship where I was LJBF'ed. I said no I won't in my last text message to her, I burnt that bridge down. It was a very unpleasant emotional experience, so I started asking the question-Why did this happen to me? How can I keep it from happening again?

These forums and other PUA sites have opened my eyes to a world I never knew of. I have resolved to improve myself, the shy, nice guy AFC is going to die a painless death, I won't miss him.

As a recovering AFC, I have already walked out onto a sidewalk at my work and made eye contact with an attractive woman and said hi. (She smiled and said hi before I even got the "hi" out of my mouth.) That was a big step for me!

Then I decided to sarge at a nearby Church, (I'm not a drinker or club-goer).
I went up and sat in front of my target (around a 6, I'll have to raise my standards)
got a decent conversation going with her about where I could put my 12 Y.O. daughter at while in the Church service. Yes, I did this with my 12 Y.O. daughter sitting next to me. (You think you have AA issues?)

Then her husband came up and sat down beside her, LOL, that basically ended that set with no close, but she offered to show me where to take my daughter and got up and left her husband sitting there! LOL!

That was fun actually, and seeing how a woman reacts to your attention makes it an interesting and rewarding experience even without a close.

So now that I've tactically scoped out the available women there, I can proceed with a better approach and not get cockblocked next time. Once I approach most of the available targets, if I get no results, I'll move on to the next church. Praise the Lord!

Uhm...wow lol. Welcome to the forum.

The only question I have for you is,
why a church? There are bars,
coffee shops, clubs, grocery
stores, music shops,
malls...

A church is a place of worship,
atonement and forgiveness...last time
I went to church (its Shul for me since i'm
jewish) I think the majority of people attending
are very conservative and have a lifestyle
that does not allow them to be in
multiple relations, adultery
cannot be committed
either, just bearing
skin is a sin, swearing is against the rules,
you cannot masterbate...Do you want
to be in relationship with a women
who is conservative, won't ever
experiment, prays all day
and won't give it to
you at night?

Dude, religion holds
people back from enjoying life (not everyone but alot...) and you're
trying to pick them up? Dude have some standards!
I commend you for trying to bring some light into their
lives and your own but honestly, in a church
you're going to find only 2 types of women,
the one who won't have sex until she's
married (it probably wont be good sex
cause only military position is allowed)
and the other type is the one that
is conservative and will be
faithful to her husband
and 5 kids.

To me, a church seem's like the
tacky and lazy place for a person to
go pick up girls. Sure you'll find
that ONE rebellious girl who
goes out on a Friday night...
and that's it! If you want
to stop being and AFC
and expand you're
horizons and meet
more attractive women,
move away from the
church vibe. I can't
believe I just said "church
vibe" haha.

Just pointing something
out, I know it's off topic but anyway...
Religion is used a guideline to help us get
in the direction in life. And, if you're a christian,
hindu, jew, arab...whatever I don't care, the first
rule above everything else is that you're god
gave you FREE WILL. You can do what
the fuck you want, when and how
you choose. He won't take
away your life or send
you to hell in the
end just because you
disagree with
something in your bible.
Life is all about experience
and if you're religion is
holding you back
from enjoying
certain experiences in life...
That's for you to decide, not god.

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'Bitches aint shit' - Chai

Yeah, I don't think it's the best place, it helped me a little with AA, but that's about it. I'm going to have to expand my horizons.

100% man move away from that and look onto
more exciting or just more social places!
They don't have to be clubs or bars
right away, go practice at a
mall, grocery store or
even a coffee shop.

Have you seen
VH1's THE PICKUP ARTIST?
If you haven't I highly
recommend you do,
it will give you alot
of insight into
the pickup community and
how just simple changes
can impact in the
biggest and best
attributes of
your life

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'Bitches aint shit' - Chai