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I didn't say they liked those men. I said they are attracted to those men. The rebels and the bad-asses. The _jerks_. Getting around that initial attraction, women often do find men who are loving and giving and wonderful to be with. Sometimes, men who give off that initial bad-ass vibe are actually nice guys, with a layer of facade. But finding those men can be a challenge.
Set out what is important to you; do you want a bad-ass (a real bad-ass, as opposed to the bad-ass-on-the-outside-sweet-sensitive-guy-on-the-inside)? do you want someone who is knowledgeable? do you want someone that can entertain you? are you looking for a one-night-stand or a long-term relationship? Figure out your goals, and then go for them, and if the people you're talking to don't have the features you're looking for, move on.
I'm all of the above.. Took years to acquire all the traits. Into my late '30's and loads of experience. Including one failed marriage (thankfully with no children).
It's possible. But it takes time. And by the time the majority of guys acquire it they're married, and their wives can take some of the credit for the transformation, if it's even possible with a particular guy. Guys don't shed their bullshyt programming and misconceptions about themselves and the opposite sex easily.
And that's the problem in a nutshell.. Finding out exactly what a particular woman wants, especially the young ones. They often aren't very good at verbalizing it. And we always have great difficulty at reading their often passive aggressive and subtle signals. They're testing the waters if you will. At the peak of their sexual desirability. No wonder so many of them put off childbirth into their '30's and suddenly find it aint working anymore for a variety of reasons.
Hence my insistence of creating as much commonality as possible.
Love takes time. So does wading through all the chaffe.
If you're just looking to get your rocks off get a bottle of lotion, a towel and a magazine. You'll save yourself alot of heartache, perhaps child support, and prescriptions for Valtrex.
As I remember back over the past 46 years, some of the most rewarding experiences I've ever had with girls didn't involve sex at all for one reason or another. Now alot of guys will say, man that's just crazy.. Not really. Sex is a physical act (a fun one no doubt), but the mind and the emotions is where the real action is.
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Even before The Game was published I'm already pretty good at the art of pick-up. I guess curiousity can kill the cat but I'm a bad kitty.
