Hey guys, newbie here,

Here's my story - its a bit long, but I have poured my mind out. a bit.

I am 27 yrs old, lacking confidence for a lot of things, doing gutsy stuff was never my thing, never had sex, being only in boyzone for a long time and so on. A lot of my background has contributed to me being this way. I feel I am missing out a lot this world has to offer and do feel alone at times. Basically being your typical awkward introvert.

I joined here to change myself, enjoy the world confidently, talk with women freely, maybe attract women, gain confidence and face the world in a totally different way than what I have had so far. I honestly dont mind being an introvert but definitely want to do away with the awkwardness part.

I started watching youtube videos of Todd Valentine, RSDMax and a few others and their in-field footage of how they picked up women at places where I would never imagine to. The confidence they showcase is unreal, but since they did catch it on camera, its very real I feel like I want to have the confidence they have, go out there and lose the fear of losing, remove the fricking mental block/wall that I have unknowingly built over the part 2 decades, do away with my social awkwardness and be bold, confident.

I have tried so many things - OKC, Candidate, Bumble, Tinder, CMB, Hot or Not, Badoo, SnapChat, happn etc. I try everyday, exhaust all the options there are and I get spam (if there was ever a reply from any of them). Dating was never on my cards as I just couldn't open up. Each time I face someone new my mental block gets stronger than ever. I blank out. Confidence level drops to zero. All sorts of stuff.

That was my story. I could go on (from all the frustration that has built up so far) but I think you get my feeling.

I hope you guys are doing well, are better off than how you were on the first day of joining here and have had great success in doing things confidently than ever before.


Your new member hoping to change for the better,
awkward.devil

Edit: If it helps, I am in Seattle (residing close to Downtown) and moved from Phoenix 4 months ago.
Feel free to PM me, send me a few links of the interesting places that I can start with.

Welcome to the forum:

Heres a few solid links to get you started:

pua-lounge/topic190620.html

posting.php?mode=reply&f=1&t=197547

approaching-and-opening/topic190187.html

Let me know if you have any questions.

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Hello awkward.devil,

Welcome to the Seattle pickup scene. I run with a crew that has two formal events a month for new member and a number of informal gatherings for the people that we like. Hit me up at 520-333-7226 if you want to join. As far as advice goes, I'd recommend setting up sustainable goals. I tend to hit this hard and then get overloaded and drop out for a while. It's better to do a smaller more manageable effort over a longer time period. That's my two cents.

Regards,
Spence Verde

Yes. First goal for me is to break the Approach Anxiety and see how it goes from there.
I believe I can keep up a conversation going, but do feel a little stressed to start a conversation (working actively to change that).
Initiating a conversation at social events and in pickup scene is totally different, but only common thing I see is confidence.
Hey gringo, I have sent you a text message and a PM. Looking forward for this.

hey im looking for a wing or/ wings as well. i try to go out everyday make approaches let me know if you can meet up

206 372 7085 text

thanks

You sound a bit like myself in my late 20s and early 30s. Though I lost my virginity in my teens and had a blast with women in early 20s by there time I was about your age things seemed to drop off and I slowly became an AFC. I lost all my confidence and was also an introvert. For about 6 years I didn't see a single pair of spread legs.

In my early 30s I was browsing the library and serendipitously discovered the Game. At the time I couldn't hold a conversation with a dude let alone a chick.
I saw all these other men walking out the bars with 3 ladies around their arms, giving girls piggyback rides and even fuckin'em in bathroom stalls right next to me. I couldn't understand why all these men even some less attractive than myself could pull in some of the finest females I had ever seen. I lived in multiple states and countries at this time and always seemed to fail and never know what they had that I didn't. I just accepted it.

I tried all the dating sites as well but nothing came of it but a few awkward dates. The truth is most women don't want to meet a guy online they want a so called "real man" that will pick them up the classic and old fashioned way in public. It makes you stand out more from the crowd of men that just stand there and look at her but display enough confidence to pull her in. Women look for social qualities in a man not men that come off as creepy and just stare and can't hold somewhat of a conversation let alone have the confidence to pop the pussy.

I am still learning myself but what I do know is women love a man of mystery and intrigue. If you can ever learn to "Go Caveman" properly you will be successful. Be smooth and don't appear as if you are trying to hard.

Whatever your goals are at first make sure they are manageable and obtainable. If you just seek being able to communicate, have a girlfriend, catch a few phone numbers or mltrs (multiple long term relationships) the best of luck to you. However chance and luck are slim to none in this world. If you truly want something you have to go out and get it all while developing your skills in the process to do so.

Don't go into anything with high expectations, except it for what it is and continue to develop. Remember it's better to try get rejected by a woman than to not attempt to approach her at all. Rejection will only allow you to discover your mistakes and learn how to be better the next time you are in a similar situation.