| Hello, everybody! I'm here to learn how to improve my game. I've had periods in my life where my natural game took over, and I've dated some super hot babes in my life. However, I have some hitches in my game that I would like to work through.
I have a lot of natural assets: I'm a fraternal twin, and my twin is a very good-looking woman. This gave me a lot of insight to women growing up. I'm 6'2" tall which is attractive to women. I'm intelligent and funny. I know how to make women laugh very easily, and I have found this to be my sexiest feature to women. I don't get intimidated by beauty. I realize that beautiful women have been beautiful their entire lives; it's all they know. So when men are intimidated by their beauty, it is an instant turn off.
Anyway, I obviously didn't come here because I have it all figured out! I think with a little work I could do much better than I have been. So I'll fill in some of my perceived problems.
My problems are in the area of Kino escalation and creating value. I can meet a woman, have their attention and get their phone numbers usually, but I can feel my confidence drop when it comes to not hiding my true desires (to fark them!). When my confidence drops, I can see them sensing it. I suddenly feel creepy, they can sense it (my whole demeanor probably changes), I can see them see me going from alpha to beta and I'm suddenly not attractive to them at all. I would really love to fix this!
Here's the situation I'm in right now: I've gone back to college and am studying Pre-Med. I will graduate in May and start Med School next Fall. About a year and a half a go I met a tutor who is now my target. She had a boyfriend when we first met, but I made her laugh enough, and she's impressed with me enough that we became aquaintances. We've studied together many times having taken a few of the same classes. She is I guess HB10. It's not just her physical appearance, though, that gets to me. It's her strong personality. She takes no nonsense (even though she has a great sense of humor). She gets hit on a lot, but probably not as much as one might expect because she can be very intimidating, both physically because of her beauty, but also with the hard shell she puts up around herself. This never bothered me much because I somehow innately knew that this shell was from being hurt before somehow, and she only needs this barrier to protect herself because inside she is so vulnerable.
So, after the summer was over, I ran into her and her BFF, Mary (they are almost inseparable and she is also a beauty) in the bookstore. She said she had been feeling down for unrelated reasons, so later that day I sent her a picture of a sunflower that I had taken and said cheer up! The first day of bio-chem class, she yells across the room to tell me how sweet that was of me and how much she appreciated it. I said "cool", but at that moment I knew that I had a shot with her. We sit next to each other in human development as well so I get to spend a lot of time with her. Well, over the next couple of weeks I began to get frustrated adn angry because I wasn't getting the attention back from her that I wanted. SHe and her friend and others even were noticing what a fucking grump I had become. I know this is the least attractive way I could have behaved. I was out.
Then I came across the book The Game. I had seen the show Mystery did here on PUA's and knew I had to study this some more in order to overcome my frustration once and or all. The first advice I came across that I had to use was "smile and be happy". Duh! It immediately began to turn things around. After all, those are a couple of my strengths. Now I just need to Kino accelerate and kiss-close.
It's been very hard for me to figure out how to isolate her. Classmates are always around. But I finally created an opportunity. She and I were talking about our plans after graduation, and in the course of that conversation I told her of a place a friend had told me about nearby that has some biological features that are very rare where we live. It's in a national park about thirty minutes away from our school. She said she would pay me fifty dollars to take her there. That was a week ago. I haven't told her that I have gotten directions yet because I didn't want to appear too needy. Also, the fall colors aren't quiet perfect yet as they will in the next week or two here.
So I also went out with a friend last week to work on my game and talk to other women to counter my oneitis that has obviously been getting worse. It worked great! I got the number of a HB7 which helped my confidence. I've read half of The Game and started a book on NLP by Richard Bandler. I've read a lot of forum posts, and I'm ready to put a plan into action. I'm thinking of texting her telling her that I ran into that friend, got directions, and that I'm going to go check the place out this coming Thursday right after class and for her to be ready to go. (not asking, telling her when we're going) I thought that would make me look strong and confident. Hopefully I can learn some techniques that will keep me from being in the Friends-only" zone and escalate our physicality on the short day trip. Also, I think I need to make sure I keep her friend Mary from tagging along somehow. After all, Faith won't realize this is a date because it's not really. It's just us going to check out a park.
Here's my biggest shortcoming.... Faith is 21, but I will be 50 in February. Thing is when she asked me how old I was when we first met, I wouldn't tell her. I made her guess. Her first response was, "Are you over thirty?". Everyone guesses my age at about 35. So I guess this is good. By the time a girl knows my real age, I should already have had the chance to gain attraction anyway. So it's not that big of a deal. However, Faith already does know my age, and I wonder if she can get passed it.
So, if you've mad it through my story this far, thank you. Can you point me in the direction of some info that will help me learn to Kino escalate and kiss close on this beautiful girl (and all the others)? Any advice on how this date may go down in my favor? I love the PUA forums because everyone is so supportive. I think this attitude is one that women find very sexy so I love being able to nurture that here with you guys!
Thanks!
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