| Hey Folks
Female in her 20s from Germany here. I used to call myself a PUA when I was like 16, 17 years old, because I was really good at picking up women around that time just for the fun of it (yes, I am a lesbian). I had an account here then, too, I think, and I distinctly remember being invited to a female-pua zone...?
I know I used to be suuuper interested in NLP.
Anyway, I got older, more mature and found that most of the things called "PUA" are really against what I believe to be true. Let's just say I got some problems with some of the terminology in the scene, some ideas about "how women work" and all that. So I turned my back.
I continued what is called picking up women, and quite successfully, but without putting thought to it. It kind of "just worked", but after refreshing my memory in the last few weeks I got some ideas why it works.
Why did I refresh my knowledge? Well, as I said, I am not in need of women, but most frankly don't interest me at all. (That might also be due to what you'd call a terrible oneitis). But just few weeks back I met one I found very interesting, very attractive. I got her number (I don't even know when was the last time I got a number and was actually excited about it) and decided I didn't want to blow it, so I did some research and of course dug up the "old PUA stuff I used to read".
I found that, despite the stuff I dislike about the PUA-Community, a lot of it sounded VERY good to me, especially the part about "getting some self respect" and being non-needy. I know from personal experience that it's exactly that kind of behavior (some of it. As I said, there are things I just can't agree to) I find attractive in others, and that I lose all interest the second someone acts "too eager". I put some of it to work and had great fun, and suddenly, I found myself "back in the game", thinking about and actually approaching women again, just for fun, just to try stuff, just so. With that comes reading again, and more often than not, I'd end up in this place here anyway, so I registered, and then thought: Why not say hello. So: Hi.
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