I need to build up a personality, because currently I don't really have one, or can't really define what it is! That isn't good, because it restricts my impression of being confident, and ruins my talking ability.

What points are needed in a successful personality? I can think of a few, but I need a more complete list as well as answers to the questions about what is a good choice in each category below:

1. favorite restaurant
- I must scout for a good restaurant to have as default choice when asking someone out, so I can answer this question to both myself and others. What type of restaurant would be a good choice? A steak house seems like my style, but it may not be a good idea to take a woman to a place with almost only beer-drinking noisy men around the table. What type of restaurant should I look for? And - what are good alternatives to going to a restaurant, when it comes to dating?

2. dancing
- Any good videos showing and teaching typical dancing for a bar setting? I need to be able to dance even when sober...

3. hobbies
- what to say about hobbies? I only go to the gym as hobby, the rest are just nerdy activities. What should I say my hobbies are, if asked (this I guess is not a common question in bar battlefields, but seems quite common outside of it, and in dating)?

4. philosophical ideas?
- I don't have any of these nice relaxed-unserious-philosophy things, like I can tell interesting-sounding thoughts and anecdotes or do some mind trick to teach her something about herself etc., rather all philosophy I can come up with are pretty depressing and too serious things, or I can come with a quote or fact which sounds geeky and takes away the focus from myself. I guess I could take some quotes and present them as my own thoughts, but still, most of these quotes aren't very good for PUA-ing even then. Can someone point out a good strategy for coming up with good relaxed-unserious-philosophy in real-time while in the field? Right now I have little else to offer but the caveman-style approach because while I am pretty confident with body language when in the right mood, I suck at talking because of this lack of interesting-relaxed thoughts. The problem is that the caveman approach in my experience has always required a backup plan in the form of talking, because the body language isn't always explicit enough, and my talking skills so far suck, so I probably need some things to say. Worst thing is I can't memorize long sentences or anecdotes like given elsewhere in this forum, so I need more of a strategy to build them up in real-time, so to speak. Any tips?

Some more things to think about maybe:

-how you want to dress
-friends you want around you
-hobby examples - (outdoor activities, traveling, sports)

just some ideas bro. good luck

NEW PERSONALITY

1) You like to travel. Study italy and france so you can talk about them and extend a conversation about 2 or 3 specific cities.

why? girls love travelling and shopping.


2) A new name? Do you have a new name?
Make it short and powerful with as little syllables as possible.
Mine is Ty Richard. It's powerful, short, easy to remember (for her).

3) You like reading AND sports.
Show two sides of yourself, the jock and the scholar.
Girls like athletes, but not stupid one's.
They want to see depth.
Showing both sides demonstrates depth of character.

4) You like all animals. Cats AND dogs especially.
Girls like either or, but usually one more than the other.
So if you love both animals, you can't go wrong.
If she only likes one or is allergic to the other, you can use
this as a "neg" against her. Make her feel guilty.


that should be a good quick start.
use your imagination.
just remember the word "DEPTH"
Girls want depth

What id suggest is finding someone you really admire, like a celeb, fictional or real person and using their frame as your own.One of my good friends who really pulls when hes goes out sarging used to watch a dvd of the rock (the wrestler) before he went out and used his mannerisms and body language while we were in the club.I do the same myself, and model myself around the character of buddy love from the Nutty Proffessor (eddie murphy)
Hope this helps Man

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