| Here I am. Finally admitting to the reality I spent years denying - I'm a loser with the opposite sex.
I'm a late bloomer. It's too embarrasing to admit the age I first had sex. I've lied my entire life telling everyone that I get laid and often. Many believe in me. Why? Because no matter where I am I'm brave. In the club I talk to everyone. On the train I never hesitate to chat up the person next to me - unless tons of people are staring at me as my loud voice echos throughout the subway car.
Bravery doesn't equal success. One's success is equal to one's recognition of the world's complex rules and one's ability to use those rules in his favor. When it comes to dating, I'm a slave to probability. I just talk and, as many of you would call it, plow forward. After hundreds of tries, such plowing has only secured like ten lays, often with unsatisfactory women that neither satisfy the visual demands of my imagination nor my intellectual faculties that often cling to the mysterious or the complex. (I'm an aquarius.)
After reading The Game twice I came to recognize my biggest mistake: normally, during my interactions with women, most of my brain power is consumed by malignent thoughts. "Does she like me? Yummy..the things I want to do to you, etc." However, my focus should be on her, the situtation, and our surroundings. "She's wearing red probably because she likes the attention. What is her reaction after I say this? A big drunk Russian just walked up. What's my strategy to deal with him? She gave me three IOIs now it's time to phase shift. There's a place where I can take her for a nice chat."
Socialites all naturally adhere to this law. When you observe the person in front of you the information that pours out from the interaction become tools for your success. Their responses. Their character. Their interests. Their body language. Subtle forms of communication that I never grasped when socializing with women help the skilled seducer move the interaction towards a goal - a phase shift, or a close - a number or even sex. We can know how to respond to their comments. The socially savy can elicit emotions. The socially weak can exit the interaction but knowing what made their counterpart uncomfortable.
The Game has opened a new door for me. I don't just want another lay. I want to know how to fully appreciate those around me. Just by reading the book twice I acheived a new level of social awareness. However, now I want to supplement that awareness with great stories, fun games, romantic gestures, and even some teasing or "ball-busting."
My in depth introduction was just to show you all how grateful I am for the insight your community has provided "losers" like myself. I've grown just from reading a book. Now I'm ready to continue this path of growth with practice and interaction.
Love,
CE
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