Greetings to all in the pua community! I am new to this and as my first post I thought that by opening up to everyone and explaining on what I think is wrong with myself would be a way to get this off my chest. Currently I am 19 years old and am a student in community college. To start my story unfortunately my past plays a part with how I have been shaped today. Ever since I can remember I have always been a little shy to new people, and a bit more introverted than others. As a child and growing up I was also very overweight which made my shyness way worse and made me more self conscious of everything. At the beginning of senior year I decided that enough was enough and changed my life. Over the course of the year I lost 50 lbs. I was slimmer and was built but was still was a larger frame, but at the end of my senior year summer I was involved in a serious car crash that resulted in me having a fractured vertebrae. I lost a lot of the muscle weight that was built up from the year. Within the span of a year and a half I had to transform my body twice. I am 110% healthy today and currently weight 80 lbs. Still today I've never had a girlfriend or any such intimacy with a girl because of how my game with women is terrible as I have zero experience in my past. I also just recently got over my mental image of myself as I still imagined myself and a slob and not loving myself for how I am. I know I am not ugly based on how I sometimes get looks but always get nervous because I don't know what to do. I also use tinder sometimes as well and can say that the matches I get are for the most part all good looking with some dimes helping me realize that i'm not how I used to look. The problem is that nothing in real life or on tinder has gone anywhere because of again how weak my game is. I really want to change my life in this aspect and realize that because of my age now is the time to fix my problems. I've had to do things that many 19 year old kids can say that they have never or ever will have to experience in their life which is why this is so frustrating for me. My friends seem to have it easy with women and I'm just there wondering what the hell am I doing wrong. That is why I thought coming to this forum could be a start of a life changing experience for me and bring me more happiness than losing all that weight did. To get better you gotta start from the worst and opening up on a tough subject for me is a start. Since I am new I still have to get acclimated with the site but would love to hear from others in the forum. Thank you

Welcome bro, great story you have there. Hopefully you will edit your user name when you get good at this stuff. You are awkward around women, but you haven't mentioned your current experience with women, are you a virgin?

You are starting from step one so you need to work on approach anxiety I guess and you will self correct with each approach on a macro level. But I like your attitude since you know how to transform with hard work. Here is a recent thread that has some motivation on there for you:

general-questions/initial-approach-attr ... 94030.html ignore the defeatist OP but read the responses.

Good luck and please learn to paragraph your posts. Also, read my sig thread link to give you a realistic idea of what you're about to get into

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Hey there Dragula, To answer your question every time I have had some type of connection in school present or past I feel as if I don't read the signs or say the right things to bait the girl. I often tend to be scared to say certain things because of the uncertainty of what could be said back. Its gotten to the point where I feel like a clueless fuck around women and sometimes remain silent because of that.

I am a virgin, as well as never had a real meaningful kiss with a girl (shit happens when you're drugged out at an edm rave lol). Regardless unlike other guys I don't care about the quantity of girls I could possibly get but want to focus on a real solid quality connection between a girl.

To find that special girl out there I know I need to start somewhere and improve my AA as well as everything else that comes along with this. I gave your thread a look at and realize the task that is in front of me. I also see the bright side of this because of the availability of colleges I can visit friends at and use some knowledge developed and out that into field use.

Thank you for replying to my first post as you seem knowledgeable and have success with women. Since I like to think i'm starting from step one in this where is something I can turn to? Do you suggest anything on this forum, videos, or even effective books? I like to think of it as my old high school coach that pushed me to go harder in practice, I need that same push to better myself with women and hopefully with hard work and determination I think I can find this happiness that has been absent all my life.

P.S. I chose this username because it's a part of a line in the song Plastic Bag by Drake and Future (I love the mixtape What a Time To Be Alive)

Coolio, reccomendation:

Models - Mark Manson , this is kinda the bible on pick up these days since things have evolved from 10 years ago mystery method style

http://amzn.to/1OcUq5U

I would get the audio version if i was you

Good luck bro

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Thank you for your suggestion to me. May I ask if you have read this and what you take from the book? If the book doesn't touch on some points then should I do my homework elsewhere for useful information that has been left out?

Sorry to sound like such a noob at this lol, but I am very interested in investing time to enlighten myself so I am more comfortable and have something to reference back to when I need it. I am ready to become apart of the minority as you have referenced, being apart of the 95% of men really sucks and I've now gotten to that point where I say "enough is enough" and change my horrible habits and learn from them.

Thank you again for your time in me, hopefully in the near future I can message you with new experiences and we can laugh about how silly my situation is.

Just read the description and reviews.

For me, it is very lean and scraps a lot of the mental masturbation that all these methods advocate. It get's really to the guts of seduction and tells you to leave the community before it hurts you. It is an anti PUA book which I love.

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