Hey everyone. So I'm a queer woman, mostly like women but I am attracted to the occasional guy... judging by some posts here maybe those guys were PUAs! Haha.

I'm 25 and and live in Ohio. My hobbies are gaming, reading, uhh... to be honest I don't have many hobbies. That is one of my problems. My passions are music and writing.

I first heard of the PUA community years ago and to be honest I was a little repulsed but also intrigued. Now I'm here because I haven't slept with a woman in years and it's eating me up. I'm already incredibly shy but I freeze up around attractive women. I've slept with 6 (8 if you count 3somes... and tbh one of those 3somes I wasn't into the guy but I was desperate and thought that was the only way I'd ever be with a woman again. x.x)

I've met all these women online. If I get to know someone online first I am able to be myself enough (most of the time) that I don't have as many problems.

Not sure what my goals are. Eventually I want a long-term relationship that'll lead to marriage. But right now I want to learn how to meet women and not be so terrified of them, work on inner confidence, and be able to have my "personality" be the same online as it is in person. And you know, have a little fun.

This is not to be offensive to the women I have slept with, but I would love to sleep with women that are my "type." I like thin, blonde/redhead, white women. Now as a black woman I don't know how possible this will be. And I don't know if these techniques work in lesbian interactions. Also I'm femme and prefer to be approached. But that hasn't worked lately so. I'm willing to give this a shot! I will say I read the "newbie mission" and the thought terrifies me. I have a long way to go.

Anyway sorry if this is a bit long... I type more than you'll ever see me talk in person haha.

hey rose,
It's good to have you on here. We can definitely help you along the way, and in turn you can give us a little insight into a woman's perspective also. My first and greatest advice for you to start with is a survey that was taken on facebook users. out of a total of 11,120 women surveyed, 100% of them either were lesbian, bi, or had the tendencies for the possibility. You see, it's very normal. and with the right context and situation, all women will be intrigued and willing to be in a situation of being with another woman.
I've personally experienced this.
I'm no traditional 'gamer' or 'man-slut' by any means, I respect women and enjoy them to the best of my abilities. and just like every other woman out there, I have to deal with shutting down creepy girls too. So, I have an idea of what they go thru.

I think you'll find all sorts of guys in this and other communities. you'll see the classic 'gamer', you'll see the assholes, you'll see players, but most of all once you get to know us you'll find out that the reason we have this community is to grow as men, and learn how to please women without disrespecting them.

It's not something to be disgusted over, it's the idea that we were beaten down by so many things in our lives...whether it was bullies, women, our looks, our self esteem, our bosses, or even if we weren't raised to know what a man was truly meant to be. And this is our way to safely ask the questions that our friends and family wouldn't/couldn't answer, or we were too afraid to ask.

So, welcome to the community and I hope that you take this info with a grain of salt and read between the lines on what will work for you, or what you can adapt for yourself. We're all here to help, and don't be shy about asking questions. that's the only way to learn. there are no stupid questions, just bone-head answers.

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