Hey, I am here to learn to overcome approach anxiety. I don't get out much because all my friends are married or in relationships and I don't like going out on my own. I know that that has to change, doing the same things I have always done, I will continue getting what I have always gotten. Intellectually I know this. And when I do get out, I tell myself that I won't leave a club or bar without at least introducing myself to someone. Then sometime before I reach my goal, that old Fight/Flight trigger hits and I end up being my own cock blocker… Or worse, I do get to talking to an attractive woman, or not so attractive. The conversation starts off pretty well, but then it begins to stall after a while and we say "bye" and never see each other again.
I am not unattractive, I do take care of myself and go to the gym just about daily and run for a couple/three miles.
I know that when I was younger I had no problem just walking up to people and chatting them up, but as I grew older my confidence and self-esteem suffered personally. Professionally I am good. I am a licensed hypnotherapist, and I also work in assisted living with developmentally disabled clients.
I feel that as a hypnotist I shouldn't have these issues holding me back. Although I am better than I used to be before becoming a hypnotist, it is a process. I will get there I am sure, and hope that by reaching out to others that have been or are still struggling with some of these issues that I am having could assist me in getting there quicker.