Hey guys, 25 year old average dude speaking (typing?) here.

Average, that pretty much sums op my life. No, I shouldn’t lie to you guys. Below average describes the first 18 years of my life. Everything was actually okay up till middle school when everyone hit puberty. I always was a kind, shy kid, but suddenly kids my age started bullying me for it. Old friends from elementary school never really bullied me but they subtly cut me out because I wasn’t cool enough. I had friends, below average chumps like me and most of them got bullied as well. Yet I was always thankfull for actually having some friends.

I haven’t mentioned girls yet simply because there’s nothing to say about the subject during this period of my life. I had some crushes but I wisely didn’t act on them because that would only be an extra subject for people to laugh about.

After graduating from high school I decided that enough was enough, and wanted to do something about it. And I fucking did! I slowly became more social and over the years I’ve met some amazing friends. Boys and girls!

So here I am today. Compared to 10 years ago I’m a hero and that makes me happy. However some years ago I realized I still was an average person and I stopped making progress like I did when I was 18-20…

… And I didn’t act on it Here I am, an average 25 year old male who only had one girlfriend in his entire life. Now is the time to change. I admit that I already joined a PUA forum in the past, but I was a keyboard jockey. I can’t remember how many times I went out in the past with the intent of opening some girls, only to get AA and comfort myself that I’ll prepare myself better next time. In the end I just gave op.

Last month I got quite sick and spent some time in a hospital. While my life was never in danger I panicked and I realized there was so much I still wanted to do. I told myself if I ever got out of there (which I quickly did) I would live my life to its fullest! I went home with this in my mind every day, but that feeling is slowly waning

You have to help me out here guys, I don’t want to remain average! I want to be that awesome guy that everyone, male and female, loves!

Confidence, well actually the lack of it, has always been my biggest flaw (but this has already improved quite a bit!). Being social around strangers is another weakness of mine, but this is tied to my low self esteem. I’m also scared of escalating sexually with girls. Even when I know a girl likes me, I still won’t make a move. I really have no idea why this happens. I have friends who are less secure than I am, but when they go out they try with girls over and over again and as such have some sporadic successes.

Whoa, what a post already, and I’m just getting started! Thanks for reading this far guys. I’ll make some more detailed posts with my issueses in the coming days/weeks, I hope I’ll get the help I need. But first I’m going to reading some of the most important posts here.

If there’s any way you guys can help me to get started, please reply. I don’t bite

What made you sick?

Salmonella infection, lol. I ate some fish out of the fridge that wasn't really good anymore. I'm gonna be real careful from now on though!

This is backward ass thinking there Bro, who gives a fuck what dumbass people laugh about.
Because you did nothing about it (til you joined here).

Ask yourself why you are afraid of girls. Will they beat you up if you say Hi?

Here is a simple assignment for you;

Go to the mall Saturday and ask 10 women for the time, that's it!

Report back with results. (I bet not a single one beats you up.)

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

I was really insecure back then. Anyway, that's in the past
I think you misunderstood me. I'm not afraid of girls, and asking the time is really simple (I'll do the newbie mission though, simply to start). However, when things turn sexual, then I completely freeze! Things like Dancing with a girl I don't/barely know freak the shit out of me. That's also the reason why I don't really have AA during the day, but I have crippling AA in clubs, because girls assume you're hitting on them. Fear of rejection is a part of my problem, but I don't think that's the only reason.

I've only once had an exception to this, and that was with a former gf. These things didn't scare me because I knew her really well (and alcohol helped as well :p) and I didn't know she was into me at first.

I guess I'll have to find a way so I can quickly feel comfortable with a girl so I won't have issues escalating.

Well before I give you techniques that transform your mind or that close women... We have a few things to discuss.

How is your weight and style? If you are overweight then you will run into problems. Being out of shape and having low self esteem is a nasty combination. Depending on how hard you want to go in the paint you can burn that stuff off in 2 months or 6 months. It's up to you.

Style. What cloths do you wear? Can you take a picture of the cloths. If you need to trash your entire closet, you can actually go to a thrift store or a goodwill and get some stylish slightly edgy cloths for really cheap.

My cloths are mostly expensive pieces. I was slowly building up my wardrobe piece by piece like Paul Jenka Suggests, then I came into a little money and completed the wardrobe in a day. It may take you 6 months of getting one piece at a time check to check until you have a complete wardrobe of expensive shit like I do. But 1 or 2 outfits will do fine to start with. It will be like your PUA uniform

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I am a hunter of human excellence. I seek out those individuals who break the norms
and demonstrate to all of us what’s really possible. I learn what those few
extraordinary individuals do that’s different from everybody else, and then emulate
them.

Not overweight at all. I used to be really skinny, but I joined a gym before I went to college. Unfortunately I've had an injury after 3 years of training that ruined my motivation to go. I've lost most of my muscle (I have a regular build now, neither muscular nor skinny). in a few months after working so hard to attain it, plus there's always the next chance of an injury.
I'll probably start training again in the near future, just not as intensive and with more attention to cardio.

My clothing style is okay to good. I get compliments now and then on my clothes, but nothing spectacular. I mostly wear a shirt when I go out. Luckily I have two sisters who go shopping with me for clothes

Probably? Just fucking go! Are you 'probably' going to approach a girl, ......sometime......in the future.......maybe?
If they are hot, you are damn right lucky, nothing gives you better value than being seen with hotties!
Good but you contradict yourself.
Just trying to help based on your words.
Then approach girls while out with your sisters, that will boost your confidence for 'club game'.

Yes girls know your going to hit on them in clubs. That is why they wear their tightest shit, and $40 worth of makeup.

They WANT you to.

Just not like every other chump.

Here is a simple club sample.

See that hot ass standing by the bar, getting hit on, and shooting 'em down like clay pigeons?

Go over and say, "I can't believe all the bullshit lines these dorks are using on you, haha, that must get annoying?" Then "Hi I'm average chump."

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

I know they want to be hit on! But I think my major issue is making a fool of myself (dancing awkwardly, being rejected, ...) and being laughed at because of it -> a result of me being bullied in high school.

I'll remember that line and I'll use it when I go out!

Btw, my injury hasn't healed 100% so that's why I'm currently not going to the gym. Thanks for the advice!

Ok, so. Lets work on your head first.

There are many ways to deal with this. The best one being you develop a framework and go practice it and you will naturally gain confidence.

That seems to be the hardest thing to do for beginners. I can give you a framework and have you go fill it in with knowledge from this forum, but then you might not use it.

The next thing is something I learned to embed personality traits for money into myself. The tactics can be changed and applied here for you in regards to women. It's something I learned from "Program Your Mind For Success In Record Time!"

The title is pretty troll like, but the content is phenominal. I always look online for products that aren't mainstream. Many people make excellent products but screw up the marketing so diamonds are never discovered. I make a point to look for these things specifically. Gives me a secret edge.

Anyway the author goes over all of the known methods for reprograming the mind. He is missing a technique involving gamma brainwaves, but I wouldn't suggest going down that rabbit hole because it fucks with your DNA and can cause birth defects in your children.

He then gives you techniques that are way better and are natural so you won't screw your DNA up trying to self improve without taking action. You also aren't letting some guy take over your mind and implant god knows what into your subconsciousness.

Actually... Just go get the book it would take too long to type out the method here. Your focus would be on programming in confidence, and an approach mechanism.

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I am a hunter of human excellence. I seek out those individuals who break the norms
and demonstrate to all of us what’s really possible. I learn what those few
extraordinary individuals do that’s different from everybody else, and then emulate
them.

you need to practice, read, and improve all together. Don't be nonactive waiting to be better. Don't let the excellent become the enemy of the good.

Make and set goals and adhere to them, working every day towards your goals.