The first night with this girl we talked at the bar for hours and I took her back to my place and we both fell asleep drunk without doing anything but making out. The second time we went to dinner and had a great time, but she had plans with her friends after. The third time we hung out was with her friends at a concert, she went home with her friends. The next time we went out she gave me the whole "nice/great guy" speech, but yet still made out with me at the bar and made out with me when I dropped her off. That was two weeks ago and we agreed to meet up tomorrow night. We are going to a quiet bar and I want to get her back to the intimate feeling we had the first two nights and get her to come back to my place sexually aroused and ready to fuck. I know I have made many mistakes along the way, however they are learning moments, and I want to close and get her back in bed.

She has many friends, a lot of them guys. She's very good at "the game" as many of her guy friends were in pursuit of her before. I do not want to fall in this category. She flirts when she wants, she's witty, and is very good at changing topics. How to get her to get sexually aroused and interested again tomorrow night so I can get her back to my room.

This was because you two had been out a bunch of times with no sex - it seems as though women are almost programmed to give this speech or feel this way because they are led by emotions and they think, "well we haven't gotten sexual yet, he must not be into me, or is afraid to close the deal, etc."

If your goal is to have sex with a girl it's important to control the venues and not just go to whatever random thing with a girl you haven't had sex with.

Sit next to her, kino escalate, kiss, makeout, or whatever is appropriate for the venue you'll be in and see where it leads.

Ideally she just comes over to watch a movie instead; obviously you want to be in a private location with her.