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Hey I am new to pick up but have been trying for 2 months. No luck thus far. Anyway I have no problem opening whatsoever but soon after that I cant seem to continue a good conversation and get somewhat locked up. I end up either rejected or they give me their number and I never hear back from them. I work with some attractive woman but unless I have a few beers I can not get out of my head....Are they looking at me? Should I talk to them? is what I am thinking. If they come talk to me then I can only muster up enough to answer the question. Its a confidence problem. I have hung out with both of them outside of work. My friend bangs one but has no problem walking around naked in front of me and him. She flirts with me but my friend is always there and I know he likes her/fucks her. The other girl I had dinner with and watched football. For some reason I was really confident with her and we had fun but when I asked her to come to my place she said she couldnt. She doesnt say alot at work either. I say little things to her all the time. Could she just be as nervous as me??? She is nice but she is hard to read. I am not a bad looking guy at all and have slept with about 30 woman in my life but I am really self conscious. Can anyone give me some kind of help or practice for building that inner self. I struggle cause I went through a 2 year relationship and lost everything I know. Both of the girls above are HB7.5-8 but all I am hitting right now is a HB5 freak.
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That was a lot of text to absorb.
First problem is, it sounds like you are Gaming at work, and trying to Game a girl who has a guy you know. Not saying to not do this, it is just a LOT of times women try to use guys to make the other jealous. I have seen it a LOT.
For conversations dying out, I would suggest talking about yourself. You should have something to say. If you just met her, you can make the conversation about you and her.
Watching football and going to dinner can be a very boring Day Two for a girl. Day Two's generally need to be exciting. It sounds like you may have some issues with conversation, so the last thing you want to do is have a meet up where conversation is the source of entertainment.
If you do not have 'skill' yet due to a relationship consuming you, the last thing I would suggest is to try and out Game other guys or to get f - buddys in rotation. You need to Re - Build social skills. Once you get social and can keep conversations going, and build some Confidence by women responding well, you can start adding women into your life you want.
Inner Game is tricky. I advise Psycho Cybernetics as the only really good Inner Game book. I would say improve yourself to fix your Inner Game issues. Go out. Meet women. Get some new hobbies. Have fun. This is how you get over your Inner Game issues.
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