Hey!
First of all, thank you for warm welcomes I've got this far. And yeah, been around for few weeks now, so I decided its time to share you my story
I'm a 22y old medical student from Finland, a sporty enough and I do get along with people well. Like many others, I'm new to the art. I was kinda "stuck" in a long-term relationship, so haven't really seen this side of life yet.. The reason why I set up on this journey of mine, was because I'm sick of being the AFC, counting purely on luck when it comes meeting women or worse, fearing to end up in a crappy relationship, deep down knowing I could have done something about it. This is something I feel I must go through in my life. A new chapter, opening doors for some adventure..
So, I began by reading some books on the subject (
The Game by Style,
The Natural by Richard La Ruina and
The Naturals Way by Black Phantom). REAL motivation builders! I also tried looking for a Finnish community similar to this one, withouth much luck, seems like most of finns don't really believe, that a man once shy and akward around women, could become something like a PUA... Talk about narrow-mindness !! Luckily, I found this forum, so far reading it has been awesome, really!
Back to the point here... But as the reading and theory just isn't enough, I've also started taking my first steps towards my goal to be good with women (why not being able to call myself a real PUA someday ;] ).
The first obstacle for me to overcome, is my AA. As I have a little experience talking to new women, it has been a real hard step, and at this point, the most important (as it obviously prevents me from taking next steps in my development..). In this, I had some help from Phantom (big thanks for that!!), so I now have some tools to work with my AA, and have actually been succesful overcoming it, when I see a girl I'd like to talk to (yey!!). Alltho, that area still needs a lot of work, but now that I've taken first steps, I believe it will work out just fine along the way
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What I am after here, is a somewhat a natural way of PUA (being able to lead the situations with girls naturally, without so much thought in it), but still I'd love to learn much about other ways too, now speaking about canned materials like good openers, the mid-game tactics and other cool PUA's arsenal. In the end, does it hurt really to have some of those in your sleeve (like the Style's 5-lies game), even if you were a true natural? For your own joy if for nothing else atleast
Spice things a little. So the point here, I'm willing to learn the art at full, master it someday,
open-minded! I hope this will be a fruitful journey, always learning something new from you!
So, after feeling success with Phantom's mentoring, I will be working my inner game with his guidance too, aswell as some actual doings
Wish me luck, you'll be hearing from me! (hope to hear from you aswell, ofc
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Cheers!
Nightf4llen
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