| Hey guys!
I am new to this community, even though I read the game back in HS but didn't put any of it into practice. I am tall, normal-looking, and funny but never had much luck with the ladies. I have always had a ton of friends and w/e but never could score and females totally mystify me (common story, right?) I should mention I have problems with anxiety, which I have recently gotten to a manageable level with meditation, yoga, exercise, and personal development. So the big part of my life that is missing is females!
This is super hard to admit, but I am a virgin. I am One time I almost had sex with a girl I was dating in college but I couldn't get it up due to anxiety. I also dated a girl about a year ago, who like jumped my bones the first day we met (I was meditating alot at the time and had a super-zen attitude, which I think she sensed... just a theory) but never closed the deal with her either.
I recently had an epiphany about my life and how it is going (brought on by a rejection from a girl and my birthday)... I haven't really applied effort in anything I have done. Like, I was always the guy on the sidelines cracking jokes. I would rather not do anything than try something and fail at it. The same has gone for women, I just am so afraid of failing. So this is a time for some changes to be made. I am starting a marathon-training program, I am watching what I eat, I am trying hard at work, and I am going to go out and try for women even if I fail 1000 times.
I recently have been going out to bars with a friend of mine (who happens to be really good-looking, which helps, but he is hopeless with real interactions with women) and I have been approaching women. Just saying Hi or How's your night going or some random comment about something. I want to get more comfortable talking to women, just to get over the initial anxiety and wave of self-doubt that occurs when I talk to women. Just taking this game thing one step at a time instead of getting overwhelmed by material and doing nothing.
Last night, My friend was claiming that he thinks dating 21 year olds is creepy (which is crazy) and so I asked this random girl her opinion on it. She was interested and said she just dated a 24 year old guy and she is 21 so there is no problem. I was a bit at a loss after that of what to do, though I can see relationship topics really interest women (may have to try the jealous gf opener) We went on and talked a bit more and then she said I am going to rejoin my friends, if you want to join you guys can. So we did nothing like a bunch of AFCs... Joining a table of 8 women is still a daunting task at this point.
I am excited to see where pick-up takes me. I am looking for a couple things from this. The first is healthy self-improvement and confidence building and also to develop seduction skills so when I meet a girl I want a LTR with, she won't slip through my fingers like has happened so many times in the past.
I also have been using OKcupid, anyone have any insight on that?
Thanks for reading my ramblings. I really could use a wing, is there anyone who is in the triangle, nc area?
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