Hello!

If you are looking for a wing in Southern California or the Bay Area, then please respond to this post and briefly introduce yourself, even if you don't feel like reading my average frustrated life story.

I probably should have posted this 2 years ago when I first read the game and started believing that I could completely change myself. But hey, I'm here now! And I'm serious about becoming the person I want to be.

A little history...

I was raised in an obscure religion 3 miles down a dirt road and was homeschooled until I was 16. Though I had a big family I didn't get out and socialize a lot with normal people and kids, my siblings and I communicate just fine, but we are just different. It was kinda like if you were raised on an island, the way you communicate with other islanders could be effective, but it might be completely different how other people on the mainland communicate. And if you ever had to travel to the mainland you might find that the differences create friction or awkwardness. As they did in our case.

I feel that if I had been integrated into society a little sooner, I may have been a natural. I remember walking up and talking to my crush when I was 12 and pulling it off really smoothly, but as I stayed home during some really pivotal years I started developing a lot of social fears and locking myself in a prison of my own making.

I've always had reasonable amount of success, and for some reason I've had a kind of "playboy" reputation at different times and places, but I just haven't been consistent with it. I feel I don't really have control over it. This is what bugs me, cause I have this whole cocky funny personality that came naturally and I have tons of fun with, but I just cant keep that personality consistently or show it to people I just meet.

So as far as what I want to get out of the game mostly I just want to be able to consistently express the personality that lines up with my beliefs.

uggh it's just that fundamentally I believe myself to be a great person. My two life goals are to:

1. Make the world better by helping to make the lives of people around me better

2. To know more about the universe, and to strive to be an alchemist and find out what constraints the universe places on me, and which ones I place on myself.

And these don't even sum it all up, because beyond this I'm just a fun guy. I love people. I love having fun, and helping others have fun.

For some reason I cant communicate how comfortable I am with myself and my goals to other people and to women. I think I sell myself short, because I've seen a lot of my friends who have a lot less going on in their lives have a lot more success talking to girls.

So I've made the decision to commit serious time and energy into becoming better with people.

Recently I was accepted to UC Berkeley to study philosophy as an undergraduate. I'll be moving up north into a coop this spring, and since I have the fall to hang out and work, I just wanted to focus this time on developing my social skills.

Thank you for reading this! I know it's freaking long, but it's been sort of therapeutic haha. And I appreciate you taking the time to hear my story.

So now's the part where you may come in. I tried to Neil Strauss's challenge in January, but stalled a while back. I got to a sticking point where I just got afraid to approach. I want to attack this beast from another angle, so I'd like to try winging with other people.

I'd love to wing with people with more experience, like most of us would, but I'm also comfortable winging with less experienced guys, just because I think we could do more if we motivated each other, instead of all my other friends who discourage this kind of obsession with talking to strangers! So my only discriminating factor right off the bat is that you are also committed to improving your social skills.

That being said, I mainly do daygame, but I'd like to do nightgame as well. I live in Wrightwood, ca. It's kinda far from populated places but I'm willing to travel a little. It'd be awesome to have a wing who lives in the Inland Empire, but I'd also willing to drive to the oc or la. Even if you're just visiting the la area and want to sarge with a local.

Again thank you for caring enough to read this monster of a post. If you are interested in winging together reply to this thread or send me a pm.

Btw my name is Alan and I'm 21.