| >where you're located
Bay Area, California
>your age
33
>how you got into "the game"
Haven't really gotten into "the game" yet. I'm just a newcomer that was perusing around for info and stumbled upon this forum.
>how long you've been studying and practicing pickup
1 1/2 days. Technically 3 hours total. I did however do the mall routine a couple years ago w/ a few friends. I was kinda surprised to see that it was here on the forums. I have a feeling my friend got the idea from here now~
>which pickup method(s) you like to use
Still noob. I may be trying techniques from here very soon.
>what your hobbies/passions are
Very passionate about Architecture as I'm studying the field SPAM. Life happened and I had to roll w/ the punches, but now I'm finishing up school. As for hobbies... I don't really have any at the moment aside from attempting to improve my personal architecture style. In my spare time I chill at Barnes & Noble or a couple other bookstores reading/viewing archi books and magazines.
>what your goals are
My main goal is getting a girlfriend. I've had minor relationships and have had a good time w/ some awesome women, but I'm mainly looking for the one SPAM.
>and whatever back story you wish to share with us.
My reason for looking into this forum is that I found a really awesome woman that I'm really into.
A little back story.
I've never had a "real" relationship. Mainly homie, lover, friend type relationships and 1 night - 2 week stands. I've never dated a chick of my own race, but I've had my fair share of partners. I'm pretty picky about who I actually hook up w/, possibly because of my christian background(not the case anymore), and I can just barely count the number of chicks I've been w/ on 1 hand. 2 of my sessions were threesomes... 2 asians then 2 aussies(is it ok to voice this here?). I've dated a few times, then hooked up, but that was pretty much the extent of where I saw those relationships going. Other times it was just a drunken tango, then led to more hookups on and off. Anywho, I'm just saying this to let you know I have had some success with women. Unfortunately I never really cared for more with these chicks because we just didn't click(probably my fault, but I wasn't really "that" into them when I got to know them). Although I am still good friends w/ a few of them.
The problem comes here.
The basic story...
This chick I'm into seems pretty into me... But I don't want to blow it(never worried about this before w/ other chicks). We worked together for a while and then she decided to quit the company due to personal reasons. Unfortunately neither of us had each others phone numbers. I felt we had a good connection going on at work so I figured what the hell... Let me call her other job and leave a fabricated message for her to call me back(didn't want her to get into trouble w/ her bosses for personal calls). Surprisingly she was the one who answered the phone and when she realized it was me calling she quickly gave me her phone number and told me to call her after she got off work. (Gonna shorten this a bit...) I called. I kept the convo brief. We decided to hang out yesterday. I picked her up at our scheduled time, we ate out, talked, albeit a little awkwardly, but we were able to keep the "kino"(new word for me) up decently. Basically we tickled, poked, squeezed each other, pinched, and held hands, and even hugged quite a bit while walking and talking for a while. We ended up playing laser tag which turned out to be more awesome than expected. We hung out a total of 5 hours together. I took her home and was about to go in for a goodnight kiss, but I didn't give any obvious approaches. Just very subtle in my opinion. Like leaning in, turning my body towards hers, leaning in w/ my head, but passing by so I could see how her body reacted. We ended up just kissing each other on the cheek(her initiation). So, I was pretty much through, but she wanted to have a smoke outside. As a rule of thumb, I don't leave any woman before knowing she's safe inside her home.
Here's where I feel I screwed up...
So, I stayed and had a smoke w/ her. I sat on the step below the step she was sitting on and talked for a minute. Then I decided to take her shoe just because I felt like it. I gave her her shoe back and grabbed her foot instead and started massaging it. She asked me why I was doing it and voiced that she didn't like her feet. But, she never once tried to pull her foot back. She asked again why I wanted to massage her foot and I answered, " I just wanted to touch you". She then let me know that that was kinda weird and I could hear the change in her voice. I then gave her her foot back w/ a slight push and gave some insignificant comment that I forget. We talked a bit more, she hugged me again, then went inside her home. I said bye and drove off. 30 minutes later she texted me and told me she can't wait to go out w/ me next week for the 4th of July fireworks we planned on seeing together. Overall we had a fun time(which we voiced to each other a bunch of times). I still can't help feeling that the whole foot debacle was a big f*** up on my part.
Anywho. This is why I'm here now. If anyone can give any helpful replies on this woman I'm into or point me in the direction of threads I should look into, that would be awesome. I'm kinda just browsing aimlessly at the moment, but eventually I plan on reading quite a bit from these forums.
Glad to be here,
Dr.Phil
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