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It's not about getting laid. It's about winning over someone and feeling desired.
No it's not about winning someone over or feeling desired. This would imply that if no girl desires you, you would feel empty and worthless, which is the wrong mindset. You also shouldn't perceive girls with a defeatist mindset of "she won't like me, so I need to prove I'm worthy of her, then she will like me." The correct PUA mindset is "I assume she likes me, but I'm still not 100% sure if I like her so I will test her and make her work for my affection. She is the one who needs to win me over, not vice versa".
Pickup is about being happy just being by yourself. Loving your own company and amusing yourself. It's about not needing a girl's approval to feel good about yourself. Once you are at the stage where a girl's opinion of you, positive or negative, has no effect on your confidence or self-worth whatsoever, you will start to see real results with women.
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Somehow, I don't care about the outcome. A smile, a touch, a sparkle in her eyes... an IOI is enough to make me feel better about myself.
If you get hurt by a rejection or rely on IOI's and compliments from girls to feel good about yourself, then I'm afraid you DO care about the outcome. I think you have fundamentally misunderstood what outcome-dependancy means.
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Pussies are just extra-reward.
Her pussy is not her reward to you. Your dick is your reward to her. You will never suceed with women if you give them all the power.