Hey

I'm a 31 year old guy recently come out of a 4 year relationship (the only one I've ever had). I have a history of anxiety which thankfully has improved and continues to get better. I studied tons of PUA stuff years ago (peak 'THE GAME' era) back when I was a truly desperate virgin but I never had the confidence to put any of it into action. I then stumbled into a relationship with a fantastic girl but sadly it all came to an end recently. I'm still hurting pretty bad and being single again is tough!

I'll be honest, I never thought I'd find myself back on a PUA forum but I have to admit that I need help. Although my anxiety and self-confidence have improved significantly from years ago, I still suffer chronic Approach Anxiety. I literally freeze in situations where girls are there to be approached and I have literally nothing to say other than "hello". I should add that whilst I'm not dismissing any PUA tactics, I am primarily interested in natural game and I want to rely as little on canned openers and routines as possible (if possible!)

One of my biggest problems at the moment is that I am broke and still living at home which makes me feel massively insecure. I am actually self-employed and have my own online business which is pretty cool but I am making no cash and moving out seems a distant dream at the moment. Not good at 31 years of age! This is negatively affecting my confidence when it comes to approaching girls, even online, as I convince myself they just won't be interested due to my age/situation.

Anyway, I've said enough. This is my story and I just want to pick up as much advice as I can here to help me improve my life in general, get laid more and hopefully meet someone special in the process.

hey man,

I totally feel you sounds like bad times. I have a video blog about self improvement and my PUA journey. Only started it today so check it out and suscribe.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2llQSfq ... e=youtu.be

I would say that there are more pressing matters in your life that need more attention than trying to get into PUA. girls are a byproduct of success and I would say gettin out of the rut and doing proactive things to try get a job and to maybe start going for a walk. with your insecurities I would like to say that you are your thoughts are two seperate things.. you are the concious presence behind your thoughts and you need to awaken this presence and make it start to take ownership over what your thinking. you should have a encouraging voice in your mind that praises yourself when you take action and nukes any thoughts that dont want you to progress... I have ran a business before and As an employer i prefer to employ people who have hit rock bottom and bounced back because until you have been there and managed to pick yourself back up again you havent truely grown up. it takes strength to bounce back....

Make your cv. stick at a role for a few months. save up for your own place... as for pick up... fake it til you make it... delude yourself into thinking of yourself as a man in his prime and practice talking to people... your just wanting to get some positive reference experiences at the moment. smile at everyone as you walk past them on the street.... then move on to talking to girls and getting numbers. if you need any more advice just pm me im happy to help. subscribe to my youtube channel and get involved