So im new here. Heres a little about me and my goals. Im 21, white south african, im a bit low on the self esteem. Ive had my fair share of women and know I aint a bad looking guy. But I have one problem - the same problem as most men - I just cannot approach a girl without every possible thought of failure running through my mind. Most of the women - if not all- have sorta approached me.So why did I decide to sign up to this forum? I need help, I started reading "The Game" and it opened up my mind and made me realise that there is hope.

Im currently in perth, australia, and since being here I have never laid eyes on so many beautiful women in lmy life.yet I just cant pluck up the courage to speak to any, i always "choke" when i want to make a move.and always land up angry or disappointed at myself when I miss an opportunity. So my goal is to learn from these forums, discuss topics, build my confidence and finally try get in the game. But where do I start? What do I do? I feel hopeless. Hopefully someone can give me some advice. I know I have a hidden power waiting to be unleashed. But I need to be guided into unlocking it.

Theres got to be some hope for me.

You're making the same 'mistake' I did. You're low on self esteem to begin with and you immediately want to approach the most beautiful and confident women. Not that there's something wrong with that, but this is a very big step and the smallest mistakes will make you more insecure (unjust). Begin with talking to other strangers. Pretend you're looking for something. You can even ask this to guys and start a little conversation. The more you do this, the more usual it will be to talk to strangers. It will be easier to talk to girls. And remember don't be afraid to make mistakes. Making mistakes is necessary to learn something. Try to ignore your mistakes during a conversation or try to be funny about it. And who cares if you make mistakes? The person you're talking to isnt perfect either and you won't see them anytime soon.

Agreed 100%. I got to tackle the root problem. Having a big fear of rejection has played a big part as well. As you said no ones perfect and thats just something I got to take in mind when speaking to people. So thanks for the advice, much appreciated.