Hey guys,

So I'm new here, after stumbling across Neil Strauss' The Game and then a couple of forums. Tbh I'm just sick of getting rejected and my lack of confidence ruining my life. I'm pleased to see so many people overcoming their biggest fears with the help of pick up and forums like this.

I live in a small sort of backwards city, so I don't know any aspiring pua's. Infact I only had one friend I thought may be interested in learning with me and he laughed at the idea. Is it right just to jump into it alone? Like I just don't know where to start! Eg go and say hello to every girl I see in the mall? Something like this seems the best way of overcoming my fear of rejection...

I'm sure some of you guys have had the same problem, any tips would be much appreciated!!

Peace.

Hey man, sarging alone definitely beats not sarging at all... you don't even need a PUA when you go out, one of your friends that likes to go out will do just fine... and if you don't have any party-goer friends, you can go by yourself and meet people at the club...

My friend got me into the game around a month ago but we didn't start sarging together till last week! so i've sarged a bit but mostly just talking to random people guys and girls alike don't say oh she isn't hot enough or whatever just talk to them, just be natural about it. But sarging solo is fine i've done it and it worked out on my first try but i researched quite a bit before i got i actually did. but ya man go for it!

Thanks for the tips lads, I guess Ive just got to bite the bullet and do it!

Yeah bruv. You just have to try it and ignore all the bellends on the dance floor.

Rejection is your friend. You could get rejected by one girl at 10pm then re-open her later that night at 1am and take her home and fuck her. Rejection is usually circumstantial. eg. She's with her friends, maybe she has a boyfriend, she was just about to leave, she's not drunk enough, she's too drunk, she's just in a bad mood, she's shit testing you, you didn't build up enough rapport or comfort etc. I mean, Dr. Pepper, what's the worst that could happen? Getting slapped or a drink in your face is highly unlikely and really not that bad even if it does happen.

Embrace rejection. Every rejection brings you closer to the girl who won't reject you. Every Casanova badass natural PUA out there who has fucked hundreds of women has been rejected THOUSANDS of times, i.e. far more than you have. Exposing yourself to rejection is the only way to improve. View pickup just like a combat sport like boxing or MMA. You go and train and spar with people who kick your ass every training session. But every time you get your ass kicked, you learn something new about where you went wrong, like a blind spot in your game. What separates the men from the boys is the ones who keep going back night after night and still don't give up after constant rejections. Remember the whole reason you are in the club is to be self-amusing, to have fun. Getting laid is just a bonus. If you are just drunkenly scanning the dancefloor "out on the pull" girls can spot it a mile away. Be yourself and bring the fun, girls love the confident party guy, not the guy who stands around trying to be smooth and cool. Force the approach very quickly. The second you see her, just go straight in BOOM and go from there. Forcing yourself into the set immediately forces your senses to backup your confident approach (congruence). Approach first then calibrate after. If you overthink and calibrate before approaching, you're done.