Hi,

i'm a 30 year old from a small town near Scarboro and have only recently been made aware of the existence of the pick-up community. I'm very intrigued by what ive found so far. found out about it by getting shown a video by Kezia and quite a bit of it sounds strangely familiar to me...

I've just come out of 2 years of hell after a 7 year relationship and have found i have NO skills AT ALL in these area's:

Approach, Opening... Tell you what, i'll cut this short. EVERYTHING!

I know its a forbidden word but i am the archetypal 'nice guy' and have been a permanent resident in the friendzone since i was 14. could do with some direction to find my way out of it at last...

I dont want just another dead end relationship or another cheating girl, i want to find someone... special.

Welcome bro. You won't regret it, with some work, you will find the special girl within a year.

Now the question is..

What is your plan of action to achieve your goal?

What are your 1st steps ?

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Well... the last time i was in a position to try and attract a woman, i was 1round 19... I'm 31 this year and i was not particularly good at doing it when i was younger so now, as out of practice as i am, is near impossible!!

The first hurdle i need to jump which i have been pushing myself to do is to actually go out. Out of the flat! I've been doing some of my scribblings at open mic nights around my town to try and get myself used to standing infront of people and saying something and used to being out in public on a level playing field but i can't really walk up to people and start spouting poetry now can i? Especially seeing as though a lot of my writings are political or negative but anyway, thats irrelevant.

Ive forced myself over that hurdle all be it clumsily but the main thing i have to deal with is Caligynephobia and severe approach anxiety.

I know i can do it, the three approaches i've forced myself into have ended in two number closes and an f-close with a spearmint rhino dancer(all be it an EX spearmint rhino dancerand f-closed on the second date but hey, what a confidence boost!!)

Although i know it is possible and ive studied the theory, i still freeze when i come face to face with a potential situation. thats my major concern of the moment.

On top of that, i've always been the guy who's settled for what he can get, for the first person to show interest, and everytime its fallen flat on its face in the worst way possible. most times ive made the effort ive ended up in the friendzone as fucking furniture!

Thats my second hurdle is Sexual escalation. So i can actually choose who i want and have the ability to say "i want you" and not get the 'brother from another mother' speech(damn i hate that speech).

When my ex left i made a point of saying 'Right, im on my own for at least a year'... its now 20 months later and i think i know who i am again now so now its my time. now im gonna be picky. now im going to choose.

Goodluck bro

P.s.

HOW DID YOU FUCK THE STRIPPER CONSIDERING YOUR PHOBIAS ETC?!?

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I nearly didnt!! i was so unbeleivabley nervous man, i almost lost it completely... im just very lucky she was understanding about it!! She could see i was nervous and we'd had some correspondence so she was aware of the issues etc...

I met her at a rave i went to and we just hit it off in a non-verbal way. by the end of the night, she gave me her number and we stayed in touch. looking at it now, i think i was verging on Oneitis but ive cured myself of it. to be fair i think she pursued me... i could be wrong but im sure i noticed her using elements of game on me throughout most of our interactions...