| First step is acceptance.
I am Drvn and im an AFC.
Throughout my life i have always had trouble with girls. My friends (referring here to mostly females) always told me that its because i have horrible taste , that i always pick the crazy ones , that im always searching for the same type of gal ... That they cant understand how i have so much trouble getting a girl since im such a great guy .
Well i sort of believed it , but not fully . I always thought there was something off with me , maybe my approach , maybe my anxiety (i am a very a anxious person ) , i dunno , but i didnt fully believe that it was completely because of them .
Even my ex GF claimed (who dumped me) said that i didnt do anything wrong , that i had been a great BF and that she simply wasnt into it ... and i know for a fact she wasnt just being nice .
My male friends told me that it was simply a streak of badluck and that i shouldnt worry cause i will be making tons of cash soon and women will be flocking to me ... Needless to say , i didnt find that a good thing either , do i really need money and status to get a freaking girl? .
It wasnt until my last oneitis (a friend of mine pointed this term for me , i did not know it) , that i realized that i had a pattern . A self destructive pattern , without even realizing .
I always defended this ladies , no matter how they treated me. I always made excuses for them . I always put them in a pedestal , she is special etc. I was so sure of them that i even refused to hear my friends advise .
That was when i realized how needy i was. Not just to girls but in general .
Things need to change , if i want to see different results. If i keep doing the same thing over and over how am i to expect anything else?
Thankfully a friend saw my despair and introduced me to the PUA world.
Im a realistic person . Im not hoping for a magic phrase or anything like that . This will be hard for me , going against many of the things i believed in the past , but i think it will be for the best .
No more i say! , i dont ever want to feel like im being tooled around by some girl i want to date .I dont want to feel like im doing all the work . I want to BE the prize to be earned , not the other way around. I want to be respected and not taken for granted. No more! .
So thank you in advance . I want to recover from my condition and make the best of me . Truth be told im still recovering from my last oneitis , but reading about the PUA and all the things i used to do listed in the "dont ever do this!" parts , have really helped me lol .
Thanks .
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