It looks like this forum gets a lot of new guys on just about every day. I'm not sure how active I'll be or how long I'll be around, but for the past few days I've been reading a lot of threads on this forum so I decided I'll get myself going on here. Maybe this will help jump start me and increase my motivation in some way.

"You're like a 7/11. You never close."
"Sex is like air. It's not important unless you're not getting any."

About me

I am, by nature, an incredibly shy person. During my middle school years, it went beyond being shy to the point that I was really more like anti-social. I decided that that sucked, and have worked hard over the years to not be shy. I am proud of the progress I've made. I used to by shy enough that I would avoid going up to the snack counter at the hockey rink because it meant I would have to talk to the person behind the counter. Now, I have no problem starting a conversation with a random person in line at starbucks or wherever. But people do still generally consider my to be more reserved and quiet, especially in group settings. I'm usually pretty good talking to a person one on one, but even when there are three of us, I'm usually the one standing a little more off to the side while the other two converse it up. It's not that I'm afraid to say something, but I end up feeling like I really have nothing to say at all.

I'm 27.
I've had sex with one (1) girl. That's it.
Even that only happened last year.
I currently go to university, so there are plenty of options around. It's also a party school, so it makes it even more frustrating that I haven't gotten laid while I've been here. (The girl from last year was actually when I was visiting back home.)

I like to play guitar, play hockey, I have a motorcycle, and I fly. I do exercise and go to the gym a few times a week, but I'm not an exercise nut. I don't smoke anything, and I only do light drinking. The bar is not really my favorite scene, but I'm not opposed to going. I fucking hate dancing. I'll go to the bar, but I don't even want to watch people dance, let alone do it myself. I know this hurts my chances big time with girls, but it is what it is. I'm also quite a nerd, and I'm interested in science and do nerdy crap like play Magic The Gathering and watch anime and stuff. I also love to just hang out with my friends and drink coffee. I don't really consider myself to be funny, but I know a lot of people who do think I am. I'm a decent conversationalist, but it's definitely a lot harder when I'm first meeting a person to hold a good conversation. I am pretty socially awkward, actually, and I don't think I make strong first impressions. But I grow on people really well and everyone pretty much loves me. I'm sure this definitely hurts me and the women situation because by the time a girl warms up to me, I'm already in the friend zone or she has otherwise decided I'm not fuckable. I'm also a very honest person, I don't like to bend the truth or make up stuff to make it easier to get with a girl.

I definitely don't see relationships and the whole dating game the way most people seem to, although I wouldn't be surprised if a lot of people around here feel the same way I do. I don't think people should jump into relationships, even semi-serious ones, without a lot of thought and consideration. I think it is normal nowadays for people to have a boyfriend/girlfriend just because they think they're supposed to have one, and then what happens is they end up dating that individual even though they really don't work very well together. I believe it's pretty much the same reason why the divorce rate is so high. I don't really care to ever actually get married myself. I've only had a few girls who I've even thought about dating seriously. All of those times it fell through and we never actually ended up dating. So I've basically had a few unofficial girlfriends, but because they were never official, the girl never wanted to have sex. There was one girl who I actually really did want to date seriously, and I do believe I was legitimately in love with that girl (another thing I think people need to be more careful about is deciding when they're actually in love and not just infatuated), but unfortunately, she lost interest in me very quickly. Every other time I've had an opportunity to have sex, there has just been some other factor that has worked against me. I won't go into details about those factors, but even friends have told me "Man, you really do just have really bad luck."

Where I'm at with my game

The first thing I'd like to say here is that I really don't suffer from approach anxiety, and I believe my inner game is solid, with one exception. Even though I'm a very shy person by nature, ever since high school I've worked on breaking out of my shell. Now, I really don't have any problem walking up to anyone and talking to them as long as I have something to say. I've done quite a few cold approaches in my day.I really don't get embarrassed easily at all, and I'll do goofy shit in public all the time, as long as I think it's fun.

As far as inner game goes, I'll just say this: I am fucking awesome. I know this may sound TOO confident, and I'm just being arrogant, but it's not to say that I'm perfect. But really, I pretty much see myself as being the man. I have my shit together, I have a lot of interesting hobbies, I'm in pretty good shape, I'm good looking to the point that people have told me I should model, I'm pretty intelligent; and I'm going into a great career, one which also happens to be a childhood dream of mine. The exception to my inner-game being solid that I mentioned above is this: I have a huge hangup on the fact that I am so bad with women and my number is so low. I mentioned above that I really don't get embarrassed easily, but I am incredibly embarrassed to admit that I've only slept with one girl.

As I said, I've done cold approaches and pulled some extremely hot girls a few times. But I've never been able to close. I think I've actually regressed in my abilities and confidence, because every time I think it's going to work out and I'm actually gonna get some sex, something else happens and I go to bed alone again. I can't even count the number of times a girl has just straight up stopped talking to me out of nowhere. Obviously I'm doing something wrong. Aside from closing, I know I suck at kino.

As far as making approaches, even though I don't have anxiety, I still find it hard. The reason is that I can't think of a reason to talk to the girl. If a girl is walking down the street, or at a party or a bar with friends, what reason do I really have to go talk to her? She knows as well as I do the only reason I have to approach her is to see if I can get in her pants. For this reason, I tend to be a more direct when I do cold approaches.

Why I'm here

I've been very skeptical when it comes to anything like PUA and advice on the internet or from books on how to get girls. I've always felt like it probably wouldn't work, and the stuff that did work was really more about manipulating the girls more so than actually getting them interested in you. Basically, it has gotten to the point that I'm so tired of being a sexless loser, that I just don't give a shit about that stuff anymore. If some of this stuff is manipulative, so be it.

With that being said, I've already read through a lot of the stuff on the forum and I've gotten Chief's starter pack thing and I think it's going to help.

My reason for being here is simply that I want to get laid more. A lot more. It makes me kind of nauseous to think that pretty soon I'm going to turn 30 and I won't really be able to hit on all the 19 and 20 year olds anymore. I legitimately get very depressed on a very regular basis when I think about how bad I am with girls and the fact that I've got less sexual experience than most people ten years younger than me. I can't say I've cried over it, but I've wanted to.

I feel like I've got a pretty decent amount of friends. And the vast majority of my friends are really awesome people. I love the shit out of all of them. And I think the reason I rely so heavily on my friends is because, as I said, I used to be damn near anti-social, had no friends, and I hated it. But it makes very little sense to me that I have tons of really great friends, no enemies at all, but no girl seems to like me enough to want to have sex with me. Apparently, I'm every girl's second choice because even the ones who say they want to have sex all have boyfriends, or if they become single, get a new boyfriend faster than I can drop my pants.

Things I'm interested in learning are:
- Getting better coming up with things to open with
- Mid game and building attraction (I know I suck at kino)
- Logistics
- F closing
- Why I've always had such bad "luck" in the past

Things I'm not interested in:
- Dealing with approach anxiety 'cause I don't really have any
- Getting girls to cheat on their bf's. It's disrespectful to the dude and hurts some guy who probably sucks with girls, too. I guess if he is a douche, it's okay.
- Hooking up with girls I don't find attractive, and I might be kind of picky.


So I guess that's it. I know this thing was super long. Maybe if I become a real contributing member on this forum, people will be able to come back and look at this and really know what I'm about and where I started when I got here. Thanks for reading, if you did indeed read all of that.