So a little background story.... I'm 29, overweight and I lost my virginity to my now soon to be Ex-wife of 9 years. I have always been a very social person, never really had any problems getting a girl to talk to me or even getting girls alone with me. My problem was and still is that I'm so much of a pussy that I never close on a girl because deep down I always thought that they wanted nothing romantic with me and that they only wanted to be friends so I never made a move... Never! and I always ended up fuking shit up by later declaring my feeling towards them. I guess u can say I always had some kind of game just not the balls to pull the trigger... So much so that I ended up marrying the first girl that let me fuk her. and to top it off it was her that made the first move! Dont feel too sorry for me guys cuz she is pretty hot. And after 9 years of marriage I managed to pick up on things that I didn't think were very important but after I read a few books and surfed a few websites I was able to put all the things together to work for me. Eye contact for example is a very powerful tool to attract woman that I didnt even know I was fuking up lol but thanks to forums like this I have been able to create attraction. Woman started acting different towards me but in a good way. I learned all this while married and remaining fateful to my wife. I would pull numbers and get kino going with a girl just for shits and giggles just because it boosted my confidence and it put a smile on my face. I even managed to almost get a couple of 3 ways in but the wife would put an end to it before it escalated. Its like my ex wife would give me this kind of confidence like I didn't give a fuck what anyone thought and anything that I said seemed to work.... But know that Im going thru a divorice for some reason I cant seem to muster up the confidence I used to. And now Im fukd cuz Im back to square one. I cant seem to close the deal not even a kiss! And thats why Im hear! Im gonna get this shit down and when I do im gonna write a fuking book about it! LOL jk but I wouldnt mind getting layed here and there lol! Any and all feedback is appreciated!

I'll hop in here even though I'm new on the forum and new at this craft. I was happily married for many years though I don't know that I can say my wife was happy with me. we managed. now I'm single and the world is quite different. Getting laid was so easy then. It was like, take care of me Mommy. OK snookums. Not that way now. My suggestion, use this time wisely to step up and do what needs to be done. Including working the body out. Maybe martial arts for confidence and for the body. Get rid of AA. Sounds like you have that down, except you don't close. Give yourself a year of solid pursuit of your goal. And make your goal clear. My goal: no settling. I want a smokin' hot girlfriend who when every guy sees her they wish they were me. And I want a personality to match. Gona take effort. Nothin's free.

Mystiklite

Literally jump straight in the deep end. Rejection will most certainly happen at the beginning, but rejection is the best learning experience. You can establish from your own performance what needs to change. Read up on as much as you can- the broader the material the better. Welcome to the community friend!

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Thanks for the welcome guys! I really appreciate it! Trust me I know were ur coming from for the last 9 years getting laid was no problem and Im gonna take what I learned to get women hooked on me, just like the wife lol I'm actually the one ending it while she still wants to be together its just that I feel like we got married for all the wrong reasons and im ready to upgrade. So now I wanna do it right and just fuk fuk fuk until I find the right girl that makes me happy! and your right I need to work on the rejection part that's probably why I freeze up when it comes time to close... This weekend should be the perfect opportunity since Im heading out to Vegas for a bachelor party! Im gonna take this opportunity and hit on every 10 I see no joke! Ill let you guys know how it went... wish me luck lol