Hello all,

Well my name is David and as my user name shows, I was an Army Medic from 2003-2011.
I work as a magician and I am a theater student currently at Cal State Northridge. I need some help guys! I figure I'll lay it out here though please let me know where to repost the latter half of my introduction if need be.

So I've known this girl for about a year. I took her out to the Magic Castle three weeks ago. Another friend was supposed to go but canceled. Night went great. She's very touchy feely so we were flirting the whole night. I'm an idiot for not escalating the touching though. I, a bit feebly, asked her out and she said yes. I texted her a few days later and said how about wednesday? She has rehearsal that night. So I said cool I'll just see you in class. A mutual friend did confirm she really did have rehearsal. She also told this friend she didn't want me to think she wasn't interested she's just busy right now. Her show opens this weekend so I at least know that's true. A week goes by. I ask her after class when she's free. She has a hard time thinking of one but offers to have her understudy fill in for her on one of the nights. I say no I don't want her missing a show. Then I decide to text her this gem, ala, Swingers phone scene:

"Hey I hope your rehearsal is going well : )
I'm sorry, I feel like I put you under pressure the other day; I didn't mean to do that. I know you're in rehearsals and need to focus on your show right now. I'm an idiot what can I say? I'm feeling pressure myself bc I haven't been practicing my magic and here I have to go do a professional gig tomorrow. I'll just go in with a smile and a laugh like I always do."

She replies the next morning with: "Oh don't worry about it David! It's all good! You are going to do great! Tell me how the show goes...And yes just smile lol : )

As you can tell, I have little to no game. I feel like an utter fuck up with this girl. I don't have money for any real world training right now so I thought maybe I could get some help online. Can you guys help a vet?!

It's not too late with this girl is it? I didn't botch things up too bad? I was thinking of seeing her show this Sunday, giving her a bouquet of flowers and then heading off with out making any kind of move because I think I have lowered my status by my approach so far big time. I just don't know what to do next with out botching things up more. I'm not interested in sleeping with tons of women, just nabbing a nice and good looking one like this one is. My problem is my approach seems to be turning her off big time when I was at such a good position before. Help?!?

It happens to everyone. Next time you see her slowly dial up the escalation and keep building on it.
You should really try to get out of the mindset of investigating her plans. It'll turn you possessive which will mess you up pretty bad psychologically, been there. It also seems to come across to the other person in your interactions with them.

If you decide on a day then commit to it; don't flake on your own ideas. If she has to cancel then thats fine, respond in a relaxed and unaffected manner and hopefully she reschedules. If not, ignore her for a few days or be very short in the attention you give her.
Seems a little bit to over the top in my opinion; I wouldn't diss on yourself so intensely especially over a written message that conveys no emotion unless there was some inside joke surrounding it or you followed it up with something funny that contradicts what you had written. I'm not at all implying you should be boring, but make her play around and wonder what the implications of your words towards her subtly and indirectly.
You seem to be chasing too hard overall, especially with the bouquet thing... I would definitely not do that. However, she isn't showing any strong signs that she is becoming less attracted (at least as much). I don't know how or how much you two communicate, but keep the good conversational elements for the hangouts and she'll be sure to want to hang out as much as possible. Start by being more decisive, in-control, and confident as a whole, but at the very least around her.

Thanks a lot for the advice. Yeah the text was def a bad move. It reminded me of the scene in Swingers where he finally calls the girl one more time freaking out. Noted. No bouquet. I see her in class twice a week. And yes I haven't seen any clear signs of disinterest yet. The good thing is she wants to be an assistant in a stage show I'm developing so that will be great quality time spent having fun. We are really both busy until the end of the semester with school so I will just play it cool until then and stop shooting myself in the foot. I think I really chose a horrible time to ask her out right near finals and in the middle of her rehearsals for her show that's opening soon. I mean if it doesn't work out I'm cool I. It's just that I was in such a great place until I started messing everything up. I wasn't trying too hard till three weeks ago! I will go back to what was working in the first place until we both have time to hang out more. Thanks again!