| Hey, everyone!
My name is Chris. I live near Burlington Vermont, which is east coast United States for those that don't know. And yes, Vermont is a state.
I turned 27 years old on January 4th this year (2013) and while I am somewhat successful with women, I no longer want to settle for whatever I can get. I enjoy the challenge, and social dynamics is very fascinating to me.
I have a magic background. Performing as a card expert, for over 10 years professionally.
Physically I'm no Fabio, and I feel this is one of my biggest issues. While I'm not hideous, I feel like I cannot get a decent opener eith a girl or a set without introducing magic. Working my butt off to get to the comfort level. At this point, when I feel the target is comfortable with me, I get into my comfort zone.
I'm a great listener, and I adapt well to conversation.
Being a new PUA, so far my biggest challenge is knowing which stage I am in and how to successfully navigate onto the next.
I have a hard time pulling off negs, as me being 'playful' usually gets translated into me being a jerk. I couldn't in a million years pull off giving a woman the bird, or having her get her own drink. It feels natural for me to be sincere, sweet, and take initiative.
Living in a somewhat small town, compared to big cities. I'm already running into previous targets, which can get awkward. Or they recognize me from a past performance.
Also, a rough here online dating / texting is huge. And pickup game doesn't work well for me, which I blame on there being no tone.
Recently I have found direct approach very successful. Giving my phone to a girl and asking her to store her number works wonders. Or if a little more coy, will ask to use a girls phone to csll myself, ultimately exchanging numbers.
After that I'm lost. I usually don't call them because I don't know what to say. And who knows if they remember me.
Hoping to get some help and advice to further my knowledge and hopefully become smooth at the whole transitional phases.
So here I am.
Thanks for reading and having this site exist.
Cheers!
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