I'm a serious beginner:

I'm getting close to this girl. She's 20 and I'm 16. I think she's pretty hot. A 7/7.5. We have so much in common, we laugh so much when we're together and it's great. We get on so well. I THINK she likes me, she gives out strong IOIs but then 2 or 3 IODs as well. I've been working on push-pull and trying to create a chase. I have no trouble approaching strangers, using openers and routines etc but I think I'm developing One-Itis for this chick. I want her as a friend and I want her as more, I don't know whether to try and kiss close and risk losing it all?
Help me!

you will never know unless you try

Keep in mind man, She's got slightly more experience screwing with guys and shit testing them.

SHE'S push-pulling YOU and you're falling for it!


She also could be hesitant because you're not 18...She can get into trouble in a lot of states my friend.

I've been there man. Once you start developing feelings (or one-itis) you no longer think clearly. You want to see her all the time, and you lose your game.

My advice? Mix a second girl into your hang out sessions. Don't hide the fact that you're seeing someone else either. Be a man about it. Keep it nonchalant (as in, don't go flaunt it in her face "Hey, i'm hanging out with someone else tonight!") Just go do it, and if she calls you to hang out, mention that you're busy tonight.

This is going to do two things for you. 1) get your mind off of this girl 2) throw a little jealousy into the mix


If YOU don't do this first, here's what's most likely going to happen:

You aren't even officially dating this girl, and you will start acting like her boyfriend. You'll get jealous if she goes out without you. You'll wonder what guy she's with. You'll call her too many times. Etc.

Once this happens, SHE will go find another guy and distance herself from you (basically to get a way because you're creeping her out). That'll escalate your jealousy, and you will lose all value that you may have with this girl.

Keep it light and fluffy.

(also, if you're just learning Pick-up, I don't advise exclusively dating one girl right now unless she's like blatantly "the one" because you're going to get what you want from her, and then eventually, you'll want to keep perfecting your skills. Trust me, girlfriends don't exactly understand what you're doing when you're "practicing your pick up skills" they just think you're cheating...).

Good luck! Keep us posted

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Mike D

Wow thanks dude that's great advice! I'm in the UK so it's all legal! Sorry I have one more question that I left out:
I read somewhere that if when out to dinner she touches your leg under the table with her foot you're in. I'd been using small bits of KINO all day and then she did this. BUT it was a small table. Might have been a mistake but she didn't pull away! Do I take this as a major IOI?
Thanks

Sorry! I didn't even think aboutthe fact you could be in a different country lol.

But don't think too hard about this girl. Just go with the flow. Generally if you THINK something is an ioi
It probably is.

If you have to ask if you should have kissed her at a certain time....you probably should have!

Was the leg thing an ioi? Idk...I wasn't there lol.

Could have been an accident but accident or not, she left it there. She's into you.
Decide what you want and make a move!
The worst that can happen is you try to kiss her and she rejects it. At least it will get the idea outthere that you like her more than a friend!

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Mike D