Hi guys, I'm Barrett. Joined this forum because I woke up in the middle of the night with my head messed up about something. I'll post about it in the right section, this is just an introduction.

I'm about 5'9. Half English half American. Normal guy so to speak. Always seem to run out of things to say when talking to a lady, which pisses me off because whenever she does bring up a topic, I reply quite well. I just can't seem to come up with the perfect conversation to keep things interesting....which leads some of them to think I'm a boring chap.

Tired of going to a club and picking up a random(and sometimes drunk girl) who's going to be out the next morning. I want a real relationship. I always seem to be in the wrong place at the wrong time and whenever I happen to be in the right place at the right time, I screw things up.

Rant over(lol).

Expect a lot of posting from me. Nice forum you've got here

Well if you want a relationship you need to ask the girl more deeper questions, really start to learn about the girl. Most of the girls in a nightclub are out for having fun and not really in for just having a boyfriend there, they are in collage or just enjoying life as we speak. If something happens they take it, if not they are just enjoying their life.

What i would say is to ask the girl more deeper questions like about her childhood, what do you want to be when you grow up, why did you drop that dream etc. Stuff like that, that has a little more meaning than just the regular stuff.

But always keep the sexual tension, this is a main component, you want to be looked as a guy that has options and just enjoying life as it is. The thing is that if you want a girlfriend you do not find the best girlfriends that are the ones dancing hardcore and grinding on each guy, the better girlfriends are the ones that actually have some class, from my experience. Those who really are considerable, maybe it is the girls you are meeting? When you are talking to them keep it short and always try to arrange a second meeting. With the possibility of a coffee, drinks, zoo and stuff like that. The first date with a dinner is the most awkward thing, especially if you struggle with conversation.

Act as the girl is your friend before you meet her, act as you have known her for ages. It looks like you do not really have any problems having one night stands, sometimes lucky sometimes not. Nothing constant it seems. If you got the right connection it do not really matter what you guys are talking about as long as you got a good connection (sexual). Some guys can speak utter bull**** and still get 10 girls phone numbers.

Alright, here´s what I would say.

About the class thing, that is an utterly correct argument. The girls bouncing from guy to guy is not what you want to build up a relationship with.

If you are interested in things like her childhood, this is a good thing. For instance Alexa talked a lot about her parents, the way she was brought up, the memories of her grandfather, etc, last weekend. I also spoke more about my family´s history while escorting her from the metro. I did this because I didnt want her to change her mind and decide to go home instead of coming with me.

You can read more of this with some useful tips in my posts here:

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Hope to be of service!