Hi all,

I have been slowly reading through the site for a few days just to try and get used to the layout and digest some of the masses of information available.

Brief history of me:-

Been in a relationship for 16 years which ended a couple of months ago, I had recently become bored of being left at home while she constantly went out with some new friends (young male musicians in their early 20's) and basicaly re-enacting what we did as a couple all those years ago. We have a child and I felt I was being used as a live in baby-sitter who paid the bills.

I took some action myself and initiated a few affairs, one was with a pretty young blonde babysitter (easily an 8.5) who was unsatisfied with her boyfriend, this boosted my confidence and reminded me of my past conquests and how I achieved them. Basicaly I painted myself as a knight in shining armour rescuing girls from their sad and pathetic boyfriends! I never went for the challenges, I used the nice guy approach but was able to take it a step further...probably as they were crying out for attention.

Anyhow I digress, the relationship ended mutualy as we both agreed we were both bored with how things were and we have been trying (or rather I have) for the last two years and nothing changed. I am currently looking for a new place but finances dictate that I have to stay at home for now, luckily we are talking and actually the SPAM has dramaticlly improved for now! We still even share the same bed and have on a couple of occasions had a quick shag, which incidently we both rather enjoyed more than our sparce couplings during the relationship. (she even commented after on session that becoming single was the best thing I had done in ages!).

Alas it still makes it difficult when she goes out and not comes back till 8am, and little pangs of jealosy prick me and most recently she went on holiday and had the blind luck to meet a guy from our home town, she stopped texting that night. Well good luck to her and I pity that guy if he thinks he is in for an easy ride with her! LOL Ultimately once I have my own space it will be a lot easier!.

Over the years I would say my confidence has increased, I am more comfortable with my looks and I think I look a lot better now than I did in my early 20's. I have recently lost a fair amount of weight (3 stone) and that has made me feel great about myself, girls who know me have told me its taken years off me! Great!

I need to work on my openers and how to start a conversation, I have a broad knowedge base and feel confident on keeping a conversation going and even steering it (training received for a job I did with the court service!) however its just where to begin, (with the exception of the Ultimate Opener of course!)

I would definately like to learn more about the IOI and AI's as I think I may have past on a lot of opportunities, and also would like to see what everyone thinks about what age group I should be looking at?

Reading the forum I get the impression there are a lot of guy's in their 20's, am I correct or is there more 'learned' members out there? I would like to think I could use my age as an asset, perhaps projecting an air of sophistication that a girl mid to late 20's might find appealing? please post your thoughts!

I think thats enough from me for now, I am ofcourse working my way through the FAQ's and also the newbie section and discovering some interesting things as well as recognising a few things I was already doing! (i.e. indifference).....while i was in a happy part of my relationship other girls seemed to flock and flirt even getting the offer of an easy lay...which i did take!, I think maybe where I was happy I did act rather indifferent, not nasty but some more as a person than a sex starved maniac! and they played a lot harder to get my attention. anyone have any thoughts?

Thanks guys!

Welcome aboard, you'll find that in the 40+ age group the women outnumber the men and it's a lot easier than in your 20's. Start with the opinion opener; it's great for newbies.

Hi,

Great! thanks alot! that has really given me something to look forward to! Bout time the men were outnumbered! LOL

Hello Mark and welcome.

Your experience is your asset, not your age although some girls do prefer the older men, anyway it doesn't sound like you find gaming hard work you dirty bastard :p

Im 24 myself but even before I learnt about this stuff my regular wing was a 50 year old who had no problems pulling the ladies. We once Eiffel Towered an 18 year old whilst working in the south of France! and up until recently he was a fuck buddy (FB) with a girl my age. He works by having the know how but a boyish attitude (which does sometimes projects itself into fight but we all have our flaws lol) so I would say if you need to, get out there speak to these girls and do some tweeking. Your age is A OK

All the best

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Hey thanks for the welcome, again your post has already made me feel so much better!

I suppose I have been gaming without realising it for a while but its been more bumbling through and relying on the "gift of the gab" which has served me well till now rather than making a concious decision to get a lay. It still felt like "getting lucky" and it was just that helped by a bit of risky chat!

Thanks for the vote of confidence, I would now like to think that I am an rAFC!

get out and have fun!