Hi.
My name is Deslan, I am from Poland.

I want to pick up. I mean like, I really want, I used to do it for a while, but then got in a LTR. LTR, which left me completely devastated. It was almost a year ago, but I still got some psychological barrier.

I just think "Ok, I'll get the number\email\something. Then a date. Then, let's say I would make great impression, we would have sex, lots of sex. And that's all? Whole thing is just about fucking?". It is seems just so..senseless to me. How many girls you got to fuck, before you will be bored?

Also, I am scared of picking up my best friends' friends and colleagues. And girls from my university class - I am scared that it would look so terrible, if anything went wrong. And then everytime we will meet it would be something like "yyy...hi..so..how you doin'?"

I ask for something smart. Something clever, guys. Some answers which will explain me what is sense of senseless fucking and drowning in sea of pussies.

Hey Deslan,

I also just got out of an LTR which left me kind of devastated and have some new psychological barriers to deal with.
I totally get this, in fact I find sex with women I'm not extremely attracted can be kind of boring (sometimes it is unexpectedly awesome and a great way to learn tricks) but also know that the process of approaching to f-closing these girls can help build confidence and skills to go after the girls I do want while also avoiding that uncomfortable dry feeling in my pants. Then when I do meet a girl I am truly interested in, I come from a place of strength instead of neediness and I am not floundering in my game or in the sack. It's a way of getting your act together, like practicing sports - the practice isn't always very fulfilling but winning the big game is amazing.

I recommend you read The Game by Neil Strauss.
Don't do this. Friends' colleagues, friends and family are off limits for me unless I really like them and am interested in an LTR or MLTR with them.

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