Hey guys I'm Chris from Liverpool. I need your advice really. To cut a long story short I met this girl through online dating who claims she is a puerto rican american living in the uk and studying. She said she knew a guy I went to uni with and that she went out with him in the past. Since we started talking from march she has told me all about her family, her struggles with failing her uni modules each year and that she needs to get a 2:2 degree classification. So far I do not know if she actually goes to lse which she claims she does or that she lives in cambridge which she says she does. I have naively supported her with her work since april because she said she was really into me etc. She has only ever sent me pictures. However, she always rings me on witheld and unknown number and the number she gave me she only turns on occasionally(like its a secondary mobile phone). I always say to her why don't we meet up but she always says I hav so much pressure on my last remaining coursewrk etc and month by month she keeps delaying it. When I first started supporting her with her work she used to say oh we are going to meet middle of june etc but because she hasn't finished her last cwk she keeps using it as an excuse not to meet. I eventually became suspicious so I contacted this guy she said she went out with. I rang him and he actually said that they had been talking for 6 months and when they were meant to meet she never showed up. So she never went out with him in the first place. I also checked where she said she works and nobody has really heard of her. The thing is her lies are so bad that I think she might be a girl who just uses ppl or do you think because she's alone she's wary of giving her personal details out straight away and the actual place she works. Do you guys think she's actually for real and she would really meet me eventually or do you think she's using me for support. She rings me everyday and some days up to 20 times. When she's being serious she has what sounds like a natural american accent but normally she talks in a southern british accent. I also notice she is hard to get in contact with in the evening so do you think she might be cheating too? If so she would be probably the most devious girl ever and I would be one of the dumbest guys? Another thing I got suspicious of was that around april to june she was saying her dad had come over from the states for work. Yet who comes over for 2 months and lives with their daughter and then goes back. I've never heard him speak in the background but I could be wrong and she might have been saying the truth. I really don't kno what to think about thois girl and whether to believe her, I also think she may use me to for support on her last coursework and then cease contact with me altogether, do you think this is likely? I would appreciate your help guys, thanks, Chris

Sorry man, I hate to break it to you. I don't know what you mean by support but I assume you mean money. If you are talking about money then it sounds like an organized scheme.

We're talking a beautiful woman here right? If she really does provide real pictures of herself.

I think you know the answer to this question and are too afraid to face the truth. Maybe I am wrong, your in a better position than anyone to judge what is going on.

It's the honest caring men who get hurt the most I find.

First of all, I'm still a newbie aswell, but I will try and help as much as I can

What it seems to me that she is doing, is using you as "an emotional tampoon". She tells you all her worries, and you listen and comfort her. The single most important thing you are doing wrong, is that you need to raise your value. YOU have to be the prize, so that she won't bother you with things like that. For example, you can try and raise your value by not being available too often. When she calls you just say "Sorry, I'm busy and can't talk right now." By doing this, you will get her more interested in you, because she thinks she's not that big a deal for you.

What this COULD result in however, is that she will completley stop talking to you, because you no longer satyfies her. If this happens, I would guess that she has a couple of other guys just like you. Waiting for her to say frog so they can jump.

As said earlier on, I'm still a noob so I'm open for correction by others on my theory, hell, I might even have misunderstood your whole post But atleast this is my perception of what's going on! I hope this was of any help to you!

- The Dice

I think she is stringing him along

Hi guys I think what you're saying is right really. I'm trying to think shall I just do what you guys say and be completely less available or just give her an ultimatum. I think she does hav other guys that she sees so I'm thinking if I do that she will just go to them. I think even if she did like me she wudnt never come out and express it because she doesn't seem emotional unless its her own problems. What I have noticed though is when I go to London or Manchester she will ring a lot more than usual and even whilst she is working to kind of check up on me or say nice thingsM I think this is where she gets jealous. Overall I think she's probably one of those girls thay just want attention rather than anything else. Dpo you think there is any point in me continuing with this like not giving a damn but just going along just incase she does in fact want me when her uni work is over or shall I just be direct and say look what's the story. But when I have done this in the past she gets stressed talkint, putg about it, puts the phone down and then becomes v defensive. She's very neurotic, highly strung and neurotic.So I'm. Basically thinking I mite aswell get something out of this rather than risk her disapearing. Also what do you think about he fact that she uses a witheld number when she calls . She really is a complex girl and because there aren't many puerto rican americans in the uk I think. She's sees herself as a nieche. She says stuff like my parents like you and stuff at random times but tbh I think because she lies about so much this is another lie? Thanks guys

Sorry forgot to mention when I mean support I mean just encouragement tips on uni work, not money or anything like that. She's kinda good looking but I wud say 7 or 8 at the most, I'll get a pic.

Well that's a little different. Strange for a woman to chose one long distance relationship after another yet never meet. She might have issues with commitment, trust, closeness ect. You give her the emotional attachment she desires but at a safe distance.

Hey thanks for the reply. I think she is strange and wants an emotional relationship from afar or maybe inside thinks she's scared of meeting someone from onlin because I Know in real life she's sociable. Also, she rang again talking of her essay so I'm thinking of sending this;' Rach I'm worried that u just want me for support, cos u hardly talk about meeting or us ,but wen I do, u say when u get a 2:2? why shud that be relevant to meeting up. If u r serious bout meeting then its not much to ask for just 2 HOURs a weekend in July!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am not going to bite. 1hat you recon? Thanks'