Hey all...I feel like I'm treading on thin ice here as all of this can easily be taken out of context. But I'm 37, in the military, and married to the woman I love with all my heart. Now that most of you have probably had that tickle of vomit enter the back of your throat as you ask yourself, "Why the h3ll are you here then?" -- well, I picked up a copy of "The Game," for the same reason I am joining this forum: I want to pick up my wife.
See, when my wife and I met almost 10 years ago, we were totally consumed with passion for one another. The entire time we dated and were engaged there was simply no force in the world that could snuff that passion out...except marriage. And when we got marriage, the passion waned. As she moved each step closer to her lifelong, childhood dream of being a mother, I became less and less important. Whether or not that is factual in her mind is irrelevant...because that's how she made me feel through her actions and attitude.
I dealt with this by trying to be the best husband and father I could be. I tried to do everything she asked of me and be everything she needs...supportive, caring, devoted to our kids, etc. As you all may have predicted, this not only failed in getting her to appreciate me, but it probably caused her to appreciate me less. I don't know. All I know is that after nine years of marriage to a woman who was the queen of popularity in high school and college, and partied during those years like no one I've ever met...sex, drugs, rock and roll, all in plentiful quantities...especially the sex, compared to me, the underdeveloped serial "nice guy" who has spent almost my entire life in the object of my affection's "friend zone," and has ZERO game with women, I feel as though I've been cheated.
My wife gave me everything I could ever have dreamt for before we were married. And as we became married and our lives evolved, she took it all away piece by piece...distracted by life. Kids. Money. Autism. Family health issues. I feel as though when all of those things get resolved, THEN she'll focus on me.
I clearly need to change my attitude without changing who I am. So rather than go out and pick up some random chick at a bar like all/most/some of you, I want to go in and pick up my wife. I want to make her remember why she fell in love with me. I want to make her remember the passion for each other that we once had. It's still right here with me, boiling under the surface. With her, she's allowed life to steal it all away. And I want to steal it back from life and give it to my girl, my friend, my wife...and make her my lover again.
I have no idea if the concepts in The Game and this forum will work. But I want to try.
And to anyone who thinks that my wife has become a bitch and doesn't love me and that I should ditch her, please understand that I've given you about 5% of the story. I don't want to write a novel for my first post...this one is already long enough. I've outline the problem, not all the things that are right. The pros of my marriage outweigh the cons. But this is a huge con. And I feel like it's growing. And if I cannot stop it...if it does not stop...then eventually it will tip the scales. and for the sake of my own mental health, I will end it.
I don't want that. I want what I used to have...the passion and desire from the woman I love.
I want to steal it back from this bitch called "life" and plant it on the lips of my wife.